Paid Members Your Fight Site Posted December 20, 2016 Paid Members Posted December 20, 2016 Did people see this kiss? I wouldn't be too happy if my fiancé kissed another bloke after a touchy-feely dance, regardless if it was a peck or a full-on snog. I can't imagine keeping that to yourself is going to help with any anxiety issues either. Quote
Paid Members Surf Digby Posted December 20, 2016 Paid Members Posted December 20, 2016 A peck - especially around Christmas - is bugger all. Unless you felt it meant more and you're expecting it to lead elsewhere, it's not a "cheating" kiss. Quote
Paid Members Devon Malcolm Posted December 20, 2016 Paid Members Posted December 20, 2016 (edited) Tell her after you're married and had a kid and then you could literally live up to your forum name. Edited December 20, 2016 by Devon Malcolm Quote
Paid Members FLips Posted December 20, 2016 Paid Members Posted December 20, 2016 That joke is so Felatio Lips on the last page, Devon. Pfffft. Quote
MrK Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Your 2 options are: Tell her, she'll finish with you initially due to the shock then slowly let you back in over the next few weeks as you cry and beg for another chance. While she'll maybe forgive you, she'll probably never forget and will bring it up sporadically as a stick to beat you with. Your wedding day will seem to have lost some of the magic as she's slightly more distant than you expected, probably as your kiss will be at the back of her mind. She'll get short tempered whenever you suggest you are going on a night out or for drinks, especially if it's through work. Over time you'll begin to worry that she might do the same to you and in turn, you won't like her going out. This will continue to eat at your relationship with neither of you truly trusting each other. Hopefully it never goes further than verbal arguments between the two of you. One day you'll find that all the arguments have pushed her into the arms of Mark at the office, who listens to her and gives her a shoulder to cry on. She'll eventually sleep with Mark and have a short 6 month affair with him until he finds someone else. The guilt will overcome her and she'll confess to you and hold up your kiss as an excuse. You'll never be able to forgive her and the two of you will slowly sail apart. Ending in divorce. She's female so will then find someone else a lot easier than you will which will mean you have to "settle" for someone that you don't truly love for your second marriage in 12 years time. Alternatively, you could keep quiet and none of the above will happen. Quote
Mr.E Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Yeah, keep it shtum mate. if it wasn't anything intentional or you purposefully going out of the way to cheat on her, then I'd leave it out. I also have anxiety issues, although have never done anything of that nature at all. Quote
Divorced Dad Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Thanks for the advice lads*. I think I'm just gonna keep quiet over it all, literally meant nothing and was just a drunken peck. Spoke to my colleague about it and we've agreed to ignore it and carry on as if nothing happened. *except FelatioLips, you can fuck off. Quote
Moderators Chest Rockwell Posted December 20, 2016 Moderators Posted December 20, 2016 Because he was the only one who didn't just tell you what you wanted to hear? Quote
Paid Members LaGoosh Posted December 20, 2016 Paid Members Posted December 20, 2016 If she had "just a drunken peck" with a bloke at her work, how would you react out of interest? Quote
Paid Members Thunderplex Posted December 20, 2016 Paid Members Posted December 20, 2016 A peck? That's more sex that some of the soppy bastards on here have had in a lifetime! Quote
Paid Members Surf Digby Posted December 20, 2016 Paid Members Posted December 20, 2016 Maybe we're just friendlier round here, but I would actually expect pecks to be occurring on a Christmas night out. Quote
Briefcase Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Your 2 options are: Tell her, she'll finish with you initially due to the shock then slowly let you back in over the next few weeks as you cry and beg for another chance. While she'll maybe forgive you, she'll probably never forget and will bring it up sporadically as a stick to beat you with. Your wedding day will seem to have lost some of the magic as she's slightly more distant than you expected, probably as your kiss will be at the back of her mind. She'll get short tempered whenever you suggest you are going on a night out or for drinks, especially if it's through work. Over time you'll begin to worry that she might do the same to you and in turn, you won't like her going out. This will continue to eat at your relationship with neither of you truly trusting each other. Hopefully it never goes further than verbal arguments between the two of you. One day you'll find that all the arguments have pushed her into the arms of Mark at the office, who listens to her and gives her a shoulder to cry on. She'll eventually sleep with Mark and have a short 6 month affair with him until he finds someone else. The guilt will overcome her and she'll confess to you and hold up your kiss as an excuse. You'll never be able to forgive her and the two of you will slowly sail apart. Ending in divorce. She's female so will then find someone else a lot easier than you will which will mean you have to "settle" for someone that you don't truly love for your second marriage in 12 years time. Alternatively, you could keep quiet and none of the above will happen. This post is amazing, on all levels. Quote
martinQblank Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Thoughts advice on this please... It's been a while since I've met someone who makes you think about them all the time, a little while ago I did but didn't really know her - we work together. Long story short, we got chatting as she seemed down one day, and she told me a few things that were getting her down, we chatted via Facebook about a sports place we would have a common interest in and she gave me her number. We text on and off - quite a bit early on (this is over a two week period). She would often ask me if there's anyone I liked whicn initially I was blasé about. In the lead up to the Xmas party she was saying she wanted to hang out with me, and what not - party came and she ignored me all night. I thought I'd just leave it ... Then she started being all friendly again, she again brought up people who I may or may not fancy and I just told her straight up that I liked her and would like to get to know her. Her reply was that was flattered. Nothing has really moved on from this, still friendly and the odd text - - not sure if I should just leave it or just ask her out... However, not sure I want to do that and be turned down when we work together. She's quite inexperienced with dating having been with someone for a long time up until 2 years ago. Next steps?!? Quote
Paid Members Lorne Malvo Posted December 20, 2016 Paid Members Posted December 20, 2016 Just ask her out on a date. As cliched as the advice sounds, you'll be kicking yourself in a few years time if you don't and she ends up with somebody else. Quote
Guest Posted December 21, 2016 Posted December 21, 2016 It sounds like she's turned you down already to be honest. Quote
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