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I'm obviously the beast I think I am, then, because that's not my experience at all.

When I was on PoF actively I was the 'man of a million views' I think my profile is still active, dunno not checked.. It stands at something stupid like 50 mutual matches and about 700 views.. Responses... Less than a hundred and that includes the PofF invites

 

Though I did meet lassy mentioned already on there, but in the flesh before we'd sorted a date on there.. which was odd. Same pub at same time. Hang on arent you.. Oh yes I am.. AWKWARD lol

 

You 'a beast? of all the things, one of the best posters on here and genuine.helped me enough when looking for present for EX of DOOOM!.

 

Take PoF as basically being the local fleapit nightclub of lore. People are there to pull and fuck all else. If you want to play the game you have to get involved as in be an active participant The poetry reading difiicult type wont get anywhere as pof etc requires contact. and being silent and brooding doesnt translate well online. Even with a fricking quill in mouth, lol.

 

As mentioned before women generally don't have to do this. You are different,  so mail people keep it light and daft, if nothing still happens get a profile review on the now well hidden PoF forums and see what can be suggested, Don't get disheartened when and if people dont reply, it's not actually a blight on you, unless you are stalking them, but more a case of fickleness and so on. For blokes tats work.. Bumblebee worth airing?

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Can't really give much advice on the online dating front because my experience of it has been awful. Although saying that, a few have moved into being Facebook friends and even though the majority of them have all got partners now we've become good mates in a Facebook sort of way. 

 

As for the floods of messages to women it's such a huge myth. The majority of messages I got weren't the kind of people I would want to associate myself with, and that's the politest way I can put it. I wouldn't be surprised if they had been on Jeremy Kyle at some point. I remember one evening Millard and I were chatting about my experiences and to give him an example of the kind of messages I was getting I sent a screen cap of one, and the sender resembled Timmy from South Park. He then called me a heartless bitch for taking the piss out of a person in a wheelchair and they need loving too. Truth is I couldn't give a damn about that, it was the fact that he tlkd lyk dis and called me things such as bb and told me how he was going to show me a good time in a not very nice way. 

 

It did produce some amazing date stories though. Like the born again christian who told me about his snipped penis 20mins after meeting him whilst I was eating a burger. He also left his wife just a month prior, lived with a gay priest and regularly spent weeks here and there living with the monks at the abbey to clear his conscience. I came away with valuable information though because he told me which of the Island's churches were basically massive swinging groups.   

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Without being all facebook attention seeking girl here I will just add one thing.

 

Fuck relationships, fuck love, fuck being there for someone and actually making a life with them. Just fuck all of that.

 

Now with that said, what's everyone's thoughts on rebounds? Are they healthy, is it just a case of not over thinking it?

 

And as a mid twenties guy, is it ok to not think about the future and just have fun? I know it's somewhat of a stupid question, but I have had 1 one night stand in my life and hated it, I didn't like it for myself or the girl. It's just a horrible thing in my mind. Plus I actually like talking. Conversation is something I love, Sometimes more than Sexual stuff. But that has gotten me to a point where I don't want to pour my heart out and care for someone as much as I have.

 

I don't want to do any of this out of spite, but at the same time I don't want to have to think about being alone. Which I guess is where most rebounds occur.

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Nope, enjoy your twenties if you can and savour every wonderful moment coz you're about to spend your thirties being fucking miserable and worrying about everything possible.

When you know you're officially a worthless cunt like ol Branquey here, is when you actually care about the wrapper that's been left or dropped on the kitchen floor.

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Nope, enjoy your twenties if you can and savour every wonderful moment coz you're about to spend your thirties being fucking miserable and worrying about everything possible.

I must have gotten a head start!

I'm running really late

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Without being all facebook attention seeking girl here I will just add one thing.

 

Fuck relationships, fuck love, fuck being there for someone and actually making a life with them. Just fuck all of that.

 

Now with that said, what's everyone's thoughts on rebounds? Are they healthy, is it just a case of not over thinking it?

 

And as a mid twenties guy, is it ok to not think about the future and just have fun? I know it's somewhat of a stupid question, but I have had 1 one night stand in my life and hated it, I didn't like it for myself or the girl. It's just a horrible thing in my mind. Plus I actually like talking. Conversation is something I love, Sometimes more than Sexual stuff. But that has gotten me to a point where I don't want to pour my heart out and care for someone as much as I have.

 

I don't want to do any of this out of spite, but at the same time I don't want to have to think about being alone. Which I guess is where most rebounds occur.

Dude, I guess it went tits up and she strayed?

Rebounds work but only if you know what you are getting in to. If you know you want to feel loved, be in a relationship, but it's not going to go anywhere then cool. If you are doing it out of revenge, you'll more likely feel like shite.

 

Look at it this way, you were alone before you met ex'y and you are alone again. It doesnt mean you have failed or are a failure or even destined to be alone. Use it as a learning experience to work out what you know you want and take away from the last relationship what worked, what you hated, and what you compromised on. Look at what is you, what you pretended to be and then spend time adjusting to being happy within yourself.

If a relationship then comes along then it's all good, just be ready to have some shit jump up and bite you.. Be honest about it and see where things go

Edited by patiirc

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Nice one. Now, have a baby. The earlier you have a baby, the quicker it can grow up successful and you can live off it. That's my plan. I'm slacking right now, though.

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She's 22, bit young for a baby (And yes Frankie Crisp, 22's a bit older than normal, ha)

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The younger they are the less they are going to pester you for kids and want to get married.

 

Im 27 and have been with my 22 year old girlfriend for 4 years.

 

Not a peep.

 

Edit: but fuck me, shes addicted to going on holiday at least twice a year.

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I'm infatuated with a woman. I'm not in love or anything and logically know nothing could happen and I couldn't live a life with this person, its just stuff like that rums me over a bit, being a bit of a twat and all, especially when I'm on a down, stressed out or all freaky-deaky.

 

Is there a good way to get it out of my system quick?

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