patiirc Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Cheers for the responses, some good stuff in them, I know it will get there, I haven't and cannot see her anyway cos of the police crap so it's better in that respects as it means literal no contact. I will always love her to some degree ( not in the relationship sense but in the fondness sense), because that relationship allowed me to finally get my arse into gear and be an adult, work through my gender crap and finally be happy as a person despite the afters.  After posting here last night, I did what every good person did and went out with some mates on an impromptu night out, got veryily drunk had fun, danced like a twat and then came home. Bumped in to the ex's ex  (Kids Dad) as well which was fun for about the five seconds he could stand being in the same space as me before getting kicked out of the club for being a dick. He then had the temerity to text our mutual friend for the rest of the night bemoaning how evil I am and how I ruined his night. So Devil Horn Implants for the win, lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loki Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 So Devil Horn Implants for the win, lol  Sorry, what? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patiirc Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014  So Devil Horn Implants for the win, lol  Sorry, what?   It's a line from a Pitchshifter song.  I said it because clearly I am pure evil, and thus may as well go the whole hog and get some. Image to uphold and all that    anyone on here use online dating? I have a paid subscription to match.com, but i have not recieved a single message or a reply to any i have sent in nearly 2 months (99% sure its becasue i am short and am ugly as sin)  what are peoples experiences of sites like that?  I have done and have found a few people on there, though nothing long term and have had some torrid flings! In short many people tend to be looking for the impossible on dating sites and expect their dream catch to fall into their lap. Doesn't work like that in RL nor should it online. Match, Zoosk, E-Harmony, PoF etc are much of a muchness and you have to be proactive to get anywhere. Lasses usually get about 50 billion messages off men irrespective of how the lass looks. It's not always about looks for a man, but it's a big thing in what is basically an online CV. Refine your patter, don't send the same message twice, inject some humour into your messages and some one will reply at some point. There are plenty of advice sites for how to structure messages and stuff if you want to take a look. just be natural and good luck with your quest! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LCJ Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 anyone on here use online dating? I have a paid subscription to match.com, but i have not recieved a single message or a reply to any i have sent in nearly 2 months (99% sure its becasue i am short and am ugly as sin) Â what are peoples experiences of sites like that? Been on a few sites. Mainly POF and I've had similar experiences. Contact being initiated by women is rare in my case and when it is, I'm often not interested. Had a few brief relationships but nothing long term. The lack of responses is starting to bother me a bit. Really need to work on my profile and messages. Â Tend to find I've had more success after the girl initiates the contact which like I say, is rare in my case. Can anyone recomend a dating site that they can say is far and away much better than all the others? Really not sure about POF anymore and only use it because it's free. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freaky Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 (edited) I am in a near-two year relationship which started on PoF. Â I had been sending creative and original messages to women, looking at their write ups and tailoring what I said so it soaked potential talking points. Some success, mostly being ignored because women get bombarded with crap on there every day. Â As it turns out, my girlfriend got in touch with me first. That was 6 years ago and we went out for 2 months before she dumped me. We kept in touch and things started up again in March 2013 after we had both been in toxic relationships. We're now doing really well, moved in together and are talking heavily about the future. Â Dating sites can work but free ones are a frustrating minefield. After all, you get what you pay for. Edited December 21, 2014 by freaky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Pitcos Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 (edited) Surely paid ones have all the same problems? If you're an ugly fat shortarse with no personality, you'll not get loads of replies just because you're paying a tenner a month will you? Edited December 21, 2014 by King Pitcos Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Undefeated Steak Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 I always thought your avatar was King Booker! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RancidPunx Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 So i am with my girlfriend for a year now.  All going well, a few minor disagreements which are to be expected but overall it's going great.  I am very happy with her.  Here is the issue......   I've never cheated on someone and i have never been cheated on. But i've been having a reoccurring dream of sorts where i do cheat on her.  I've had this dream about 6 times and with different girls each time.  I have no doubts about her that she would cheat, and i've never even consciously thought about cheating. I think it's a bit of a scummy move to be honest but i don't know why i keep dreaming about this?    Anybody have any ideas what might be going on? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loki Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Nothing is going on, you're just having dirty dreams. Â You're not responsible for your dreams, and they don't represent suppressed desires or anything, it's just your brain de-fuzzing. Â Enjoy, that's what I say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paid Members SiMania Posted December 26, 2014 Paid Members Share Posted December 26, 2014 I have had dreams like that recently too, usually about me and my wife's friends. I just told her about it and we have a laugh about it. Secretly she's probably planning to murder every last one of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 anyone on here use online dating? I have a paid subscription to match.com, but i have not recieved a single message or a reply to any i have sent in nearly 2 months (99% sure its becasue i am short and am ugly as sin) Â what are peoples experiences of sites like that? Put up a pic in a suit, I did Last week and had more messages first than in the rest of the year put together Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paid Members Tommy! Posted December 26, 2014 Paid Members Share Posted December 26, 2014 (edited) I used Match for a couple of months, had a couple of dates and saw both a few times. The one seemed really nice but I'm not really cut out for a relationship. Â I was surprised I got interest, being chubby, ugly and possessing the charm, whit and personality of a septic haemorrhoid. Â I definitely found that having people pay for Match cut out timewasters and piss takers. Edited December 26, 2014 by Tommy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neil is brill Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014  anyone on here use online dating? I have a paid subscription to match.com, but i have not recieved a single message or a reply to any i have sent in nearly 2 months (99% sure its becasue i am short and am ugly as sin)  what are peoples experiences of sites like that? Put up a pic in a suit, I did Last week and had more messages first than in the rest of the year put together   Don't be too surprised if you get a sudden influx of messages around the time your subscription needs re-newing. Mate of mine used Match.com and got loads of women sending him messages... these women and their profiles vanished once he re-newed for 6 months. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Undefeated Steak Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 Flicking through an old flame's Instagram account and there's a picture of her with a new engagement ring. I almost shit myself. Not because I still have feelings (we weren't together long) but because it was one of those "what are you doing with your life?" moments that hit you outta nowhere. Really need to get stuff together in 2015. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Coconut Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 (edited) Getting engaged is not equivalent to 'getting stuff together'. There are plenty of people for whom getting engaged was the worst thing they ever did. Concentrate on what you want, not what the internet suggests you should be wanting. Edited December 30, 2014 by King Coconut Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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