wordsfromlee Posted January 11 Posted January 11 3 minutes ago, deathrey said: Yes. A joy but absolutely exhausting. Congratulations! I hope your daughter lets you get more than 3 hours of sleep in one go Oh, yeah she's great at sleeping. Shes been sleeping through the night - from about 8pm to about 7am - since about 8 weeks old.
DavidB6937 Posted January 11 Posted January 11 Yeah I never knew what exhaustion was until kids. Congrats!
Paid Members LaGoosh Posted January 12 Paid Members Posted January 12 (edited) Ignore Edited January 12 by LaGoosh Exhausted ramblings of a parent who has been awake for too long
Ironic Indie Lad Posted January 12 Posted January 12 I might have mentioned this before but my daughter (who is somehow almost 2 and a half already) is mixed race. Twice already she has experienced being treated differently due to this. In the summer, she tried to play with a couple of kids in the park. One of the kids said "why is that BROWN BABY chasing us?" to my wife. My wife explained she is only trying to play, only to be told "she cant play with us". Similar thing happened at a soft play last week. Different kids but the exact same language. My daughter tried to interact with a young girl and her brother. Bizarrely, both the kids repeatedly shouted GO AWAY BROWN BABY, GO AWAY BROWN BABY at her. Very disheartening and gives me such fear that my daughter is going to feel somehow lesser due to the colour of her skin. My wife and I are looking for ways to try and prepare her for this sort of bullshit.
DavidB6937 Posted January 12 Posted January 12 32 minutes ago, Ironic Indie Lad said: I might have mentioned this before but my daughter (who is somehow almost 2 and a half already) is mixed race. Twice already she has experienced being treated differently due to this. In the summer, she tried to play with a couple of kids in the park. One of the kids said "why is that BROWN BABY chasing us?" to my wife. My wife explained she is only trying to play, only to be told "she cant play with us". Similar thing happened at a soft play last week. Different kids but the exact same language. My daughter tried to interact with a young girl and her brother. Bizarrely, both the kids repeatedly shouted GO AWAY BROWN BABY, GO AWAY BROWN BABY at her. Very disheartening and gives me such fear that my daughter is going to feel somehow lesser due to the colour of her skin. My wife and I are looking for ways to try and prepare her for this sort of bullshit. I would imagine it's very much down to the parents and the family because what I've seen from most younger children is that they're the least judgmental ones out there. You might get the occasional 'why is so and so different?' but we always answered that and that was the end of it. They'd go play with whoever! Really sorry to hear it's a problem even at that age.
Paid Members Hannibal Scorch Posted January 12 Paid Members Posted January 12 @Ironic Indie Lad that’s so disappointing to hear, very sorry to hear that happened. Like @DavidB6937 said I’ve never noticed issues like that until kids are much older. Not that it justifies it, just little kids generally just see other kids as that, no prejudice. This may sound silly, but to teach our daughter about these kind of opinions people have, we bought her lots of the Little People Big Dreams series of books. The ones about MLK, Rosa Parks, Maya Angelo were really good at talking about racism and society but at an easy to understand level for children to understand. Really good books.
Moderators Chest Rockwell Posted January 12 Moderators Posted January 12 Where do you live @Ironic Indie Lad? Asking as I have never really experienced anything that overt with my kids. @Hannibal Scorch - in that vein Coming to England by Floella Benjamin is a really lovely book that my kids enjoyed and talks about race, empire and the expectations and experiences of the windrush generation.
Ironic Indie Lad Posted January 12 Posted January 12 3 minutes ago, Chest Rockwell said: Where do you live @Ironic Indie Lad? Asking as I have never really experienced anything that overt with my kids. @Hannibal Scorch - in that vein Coming to England by Floella Benjamin is a really lovely book that my kids enjoyed and talks about race, empire and the expectations and experiences of the windrush generation. I live in a small town in Scotland. There are very, very few non white people here. Pretty much anywhere we go locally, theres a pretty decent chance my wife and daughter will be the only people who are not white.
Browser Brady Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) So my 3 year old has gotten a bit fond of watching TV over the Christmas break. We spent the last 2 weeks on a TV ban and now we are realising there is probably a happy medium. What i was looking thinking of , and this is either a really good idea or really bad idea, was that she can watch Peppa Pig etc ……..but in Spanish to help her try and familiarise herself with another language. I don’t know if thats just being a killjoy or if it will mess her with comprehension or…..if it’s actually a good idea in the long run. Your thoughts please Amigos. Edited January 18 by Browser Brady
Members SuperBacon Posted January 18 Members Posted January 18 Do you speak Spanish at home? If not, I don't think this is a good idea at that age. I get the point of exposing them to a language at an early stage but they're still going through an important development stage, and I'd say unless there is a really good reason for them to understand Spanish, I'd leave it. I'm not saying small children can't be bilingual at an early age by the way (pretty certain there are parents on this board that speak more than one language at home)
Paid Members FLips Posted January 18 Paid Members Posted January 18 Superbacon is being very kind and diplomatic. It’s a dogshit idea. Sounds like a punishment.
DavidB6937 Posted January 18 Posted January 18 I don't think TV is the devil. My girls have been fine. You just have to deal with it in a balanced way. I don't think the language thing is the way to do it though.
Members SuperBacon Posted January 18 Members Posted January 18 17 minutes ago, DavidB6937 said: don't think TV is the devil Me and my ex were very much a "we'll let them watch Animal Planet or Nat Geo" idealists before our children were born. Within 3 weeks you're popping them in front of anything bright (Baby TV thank you) in one of those vibrating chair things for 5 minutes peace. I think the answer is moderation isn't it?
Mr_Danger Posted January 18 Posted January 18 There’s a YouTube channel called Fgeetv that’s could be helpful. It used to just be this annoying dad and his bratty kids playing shovelware games but since he found Jesus and became a Trumper it’s actually very educational. You should hear him rapping about Jesus H Christ. Or just let them watch the poor man’s Vernon Kay on his dinosaur adventures.
deathrey Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) Please excuse my essay on this, I've studied child development and worked in the field in some way for a number of years. There is a couple of things to keep in mind when it comes to TV, a lot of the research focus' around a couple of things - firstly that children who watch too much TV end up with delayed speech - whilst there is research to support this, a lot of this also points towards 'neglectful' parenting i.e. popping your kid Infront of the TV all day and not interacting with them at all. The best way around this is to sit with your child or be around to talk to them about what they are watching, What's happening etc and not allowing them to sit there in a passive manor. Quality of what they watch is also important, there is lots of rubbish out there. My kids watch Cbeebies and I don't overly limit it as they are learning from it mostly. Next is boredom - it's important for children to be allowed to be bored, it encourages imagination and play, all massive building blocks for learning and language acquisition. Too much TV means they aren't getting bored so aren't unlocking those skills, it's a huge reason things like phones and tablets are bad for development, allowing your kids to be bored is important. If your child is still stimulated in every other way, screen time is not the bad thing it is made out to be. The problem is that most people don't use it in moderation. It can actually be beneficial for some children in the case of Gestalt Language processors or Neurodiverse children but that's a whole different topic. I have tried to raise bilingual kids and failed somewhat, but Peppa Pig in Spanish is probably not the best way to go - something like Dora the Explorer which mixes English and Spanish in a way that children are actually learning and acquiring vocabulary is probably better than something they won't understand at all. Keep her away from YouTube Edited January 18 by deathrey
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