Paid Members gmoney Posted April 29, 2020 Paid Members Share Posted April 29, 2020 (edited) I was thinking the other day, if I was still drinking and single, this lockdown/WFH business would have pushed me into oblivion. With no one to worry about smelling the booze on me in the morning, I would have just cracked on all day, couple of cans hair of the dog early afternoon to liven me up, no one to behave in front of, wide eyed stumbles down deserted streets. My liver would be like a hot-air balloon. Edited April 29, 2020 by gmoney Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Divorced Dad Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I've come to the realisation over the weekend that I've got a problem with booze. Most nights for the last year or so I've drank, whether it was a few tins of cider, some beer, gin or a bottle of wine, I think I've had a drink most nights (quite often with the missus). Back in April we found out she was pregnant so she obviously hasn't had a drink since. Me on the other hand has carried on with it and I've just been drinking by myself with her sat next to me on the sofa. I kind of had a moment of realisation at the weekend that drinking every night isn't healthy and that if I didn't have a drink or have something in the house that I could potentially drink that I was getting jittery and wanting something. I've now decided for my health and wallets sake that I want to cut right back on drinking. I don't want to stop completely, I still want to be able to go to the pub with a mate and have a few pints or go to the in laws and have a glass of wine with dinner but I do want to cut right back. I've not had a drink since Friday now and have been drinking summer fruits squash in the evenings instead. I'm hoping that I can keep it up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joe Blog Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Divorced Dad said: I've come to the realisation over the weekend that I've got a problem with booze. Most nights for the last year or so I've drank, whether it was a few tins of cider, some beer, gin or a bottle of wine. I can relate to this. I have been drinking more than I should during lockdown. It's easy to fall into the habit (no work tomorrow etc) I stopped drinking completely for Feb and March but since April have probably drank 4/5 nights out of 7. Nothing ridiculous mind, 2 glasses of wine or a can of two or ale but still it is all accumalivitve. I have never had an issue with drink and before lockdown I could take it or leave it. I have decided to completely knock it on the head for the foreseeable, another baby on the way and a near 2 year old are enough challenge as it is. Like you alluded to you really notice drinking more when you are sat at home with a pregnant wife and you are drinking alone. I have always been able to make big jumps when it comes to stopping various things, I quit smoking on a whim and went cold turkey and have not smoked for 6 years, I became vegan over night and have often went months without a drink. I don't really have a addictive personality either which helps. I don't say all that to brag either, quitting smoking and going vegan were real challenges I just found an all or nothing approach to be for the best for me. Here to help whenever you need it mate as are many others on here. Massive respect for you realising and taking action. We have your back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paid Members Lorne Malvo Posted July 7, 2020 Paid Members Share Posted July 7, 2020 Good luck to everyone cutting down or knocking it on the head. I've massively cut down during lockdown. I'm mostly a pub drinker anyway and don't keep much booze in the house, and I can't see me going back until social distancing is over. I obviously understand the reasons why, but sitting down relying on table service not being able to mingle isn't why I go to the pub, I'm much more of a stand at the bar and help Alan with his crossword type of customer. So right now I've got no impetus to return. I would probably go to the pub 3/4 nights of the week whereas since lockdown, I've had less than 10 bottles of ale overall. I had my first bottle in about 2 months the other night and fucking hell, my bladder tolerance has gone. I had to get up 4 times in the night for a piss. Once pubs are properly open no doubt I'll pick my drinking up again but I genuinely can't see it being anywhere near as much as it was previously. I'm really enjoying waking up without a hangover on Sundays. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Divorced Dad Posted July 12, 2020 Share Posted July 12, 2020 Wee update on my earlier post. I've now not had a drink for 9 days and think I've broken the habit of having something every night. I've not really felt an urge to have anything or had a desire to drink other than on one occasion (got into an argument with a guy at the park because of our dogs, mine was in the wrong but he was a cunt about it so it turned into an argument). Now before I would have used that as an excuse to have a drink and did feel an urge to have one afterwards but told myself that I was being stupid so didn't have one. I'm going out with a few pals on Thursday so might end up having a couple of pints then but again at the moment I don't really fancy a drink even in a social situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wordsfromlee Posted July 12, 2020 Share Posted July 12, 2020 Last night I had my first drink in nearly four months and realised that I don't miss drinking at all really. I'll still have the odd pint every now and then when catching up with a mate or something, but I think I'm pretty much done with booze. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Chest Rockwell Posted July 12, 2020 Moderators Share Posted July 12, 2020 Well done. I bet that feels great. I remember the first time I had one of those infrequent fags that you might have when you've mostly quit and I really didn't like it at all - it felt like such a weight off because that was the moment I knew is properly kicked them. Now I do sometimes miss the idea of smoking but I know I don't actually enjoy the act itself, so I won't do it (or if I do I know at least it won't lead to any kind of long-term relapse). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wordsfromlee Posted July 12, 2020 Share Posted July 12, 2020 29 minutes ago, Chest Rockwell said: Well done. I bet that feels great. I remember the first time I had one of those infrequent fags that you might have when you've mostly quit and I really didn't like it at all - it felt like such a weight off because that was the moment I knew is properly kicked them. Now I do sometimes miss the idea of smoking but I know I don't actually enjoy the act itself, so I won't do it (or if I do I know at least it won't lead to any kind of long-term relapse). Yeah I did the same kind of thing with smoking. I never really quit outright, I just smoked more infrequently over time. Stopped smoking at work, then only on nights out, then only the odd one that I’d steal off a mate in the smoking area, then the next thing I know it’s been months without one, I have some of a mates and realise that I don’t actually like it anymore. I had already pretty much stopped drinking at home and only drank when I’d meet up with mates at the pub. So when lockdown happened it wasn’t too hard to stop the booze as I was already used to not drinking at home. It was only when I mentioned to my mates that the last drink I had was when we were last at the pub that I realised it had been four months. It didn’t feel like it had been that long. I guess that is a good sign. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paid Members gmoney Posted March 15, 2022 Paid Members Share Posted March 15, 2022 I missed my sober anniversary. Four years no booze. Feels a lot longer obviously. The fact it passed me by this year though is a good indication that it's starting to mean less to me. I still have a hard time socialising without drink. I was out tonight for leaving drinks and could only stick around for about an hour. It's not being around drinking that bothers me, more just being "on" without something to start me up. It still better though. A couple of years ago I just wouldn't have gone. Ultimately giving up is the best thing I've ever done, even if there's still a part of me that would love to be able have a few pints. In reality, I never ever stopped at a couple of pints. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Houchen Posted March 15, 2022 Share Posted March 15, 2022 4 minutes ago, gmoney said: I missed my sober anniversary. Four years no booze. Feels a lot longer obviously. The fact it passed me by this year though is a good indication that it's starting to mean less to me. I still have a hard time socialising without drink. I was out tonight for leaving drinks and could only stick around for about an hour. It's not being around drinking that bothers me, more just being "on" without something to start me up. It still better though. A couple of years ago I just wouldn't have gone. Ultimately giving up is the best thing I've ever done, even if there's still a part of me that would love to be able have a few pints. In reality, I never ever stopped at a couple of pints. Yeah there’s still the “How come you’re not drinking” guff that people come out with as if you have to justify why you aren’t. Like they’re waiting to see if you have a valid reason. Four years is great, well done! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnotherCrapUsername Posted March 16, 2022 Share Posted March 16, 2022 Relapsed in spectacular fashion over the weekend. Have attended three NA meetings either in person or online since yesterday morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Houchen Posted March 16, 2022 Share Posted March 16, 2022 A lapse isn’t a relapse. You’re doing the right things to stop it becoming a relapse though so that’s good! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Houchen Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 Five years sober today I don’t feel healthier but I know I am. It’s obvious that drink gave me a personality that was charismatic because I’m a right boring bastard, as well you all know. The worst part is realising the self loathing. The most self loathing thing I’ve done is knowing giving up the booze has probably extended my life by a few more miserable years. That’s how much I hate myself! Keep myself alive so I can enjoy more misery. The sooner I get on the heroin, the better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paid Members Gus Mears Posted November 19, 2022 Paid Members Share Posted November 19, 2022 I drank last night for my wife's birthday party and it was the first time in 40 days. Going to aim to go through to New Year now. Best friend and main drinking buddy had a stroke the other month at 31 which put the fear of God in me, plus I was utterly bored with wasting 3 days a week with a hangover and even worse anxiety than I normally have. My main conclusion of it all is that Corona 0% is fucking shit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperBacon Posted November 19, 2022 Share Posted November 19, 2022 It's getting to that time of year again when the festive period rears its pressured head. Only the other day discussing our Xmas do was I given a scoffing "God, you're not going to drink?" Well no Chris, unless you want to deal with me off my fucking rocker on meds and alcohol, I think its probably best if I don't? I might have a beer, I might not, but its MY choice. It often depends how I feel on the day. I have a very complicated relationship with alcohol and I can count on two hands the amount of drinks I've had this year. And due to the nature of the relationship with it, I need to feel really secure and comfortable with the people I'm with if I'm having a drink. This is key for me, as I know people will look out for me just in case I go to the dark side (I'm sure my work colleagues would to be honest) I went almost 10 years without it, and like others have said the thought of a hangover feels me with dread. I had one back in June which seemed to last about a month. Solidarity with everyone (always obviously) but especially for the next month. Thank god I can't be arsed to go to the pub for the World Cup. Luckily there are some decent 0% beers around, but I'd rather have a Coke (NOW WE'RE FUCKING TALKING TOOT TOOT!!!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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