The Relationship Thread

[Keith Houchen]

I wasn't angry about it, I was overwhelmed by the support. Thought it was a lovely thing to do. I'm really lucky to have such a great GP and a solid support network. I've had a lot of messages on Twitter from keffers and seriously lads and Monkee, it's so lovely and helps hugely.

 

I'm meant to be flying to Dub on Friday but I've got to get a bus to sexy Wexy to see the folks. But yeah I'll deffo have to come over.

[Slapnut]

Keep us updated on here Keith.  Glad to hear you took it well - I'd imagine many people would take offence to something like that without seeing the positive side.

[Maverick]

Hope you feel better Keith, you always go out of your way to help other people with solid advice and help so I'm sure youll get there with the right support.

[patiirc]

Pat, your posts never fail to absolutely astound and/or intrigue me! It's like if David Lynch turned his hand to Eastenders.

 

And I mean that without jape or condescension, boss.

 

None taken. I've lead some life Finally doing the things I want to

 

 

Fucking hell pat, I thought you were supposed to be on a ban from relationships for a while? You're incapable of not being in one. Mess about and have some fun by all means, but stop getting into proper relationships until you've sorted your own shit out!

 

4 months single ish and counting, which is unusual for me.

 

Aside from no house of my own ( tried to buy 4 last year, but collapsed on the vendors side each time and am in solicitor hell with the latest), the rest is doing well, bagged two jobs in the last week, transition is going well, relatively and I'm in a great place, heck even support and help run a soup kitchen in Burnley and have helped with Padiham and Hebden Bridge flood victims. Also started training for this years crack at Total Warrior and looking at doing either a Skydive or the Rickshaw Run before the years out. shit is pretty much sorted, now on to the next challenges

 

 

@Keith, didnt see your messages, mate. You along with others on this forum were an absolute godsend when I o/d'ed in 2014, echo the sentiments of Slapnut and others.

[gbacon85]

I know I don't post on here that often and don't really know any of you as well as you obviously know each other, but this really is the loveliest place on the Internet isn't it? It's really heartwarming and overwhelming to know you all care about each other so much.

 

And I am the most bitter, cynical bastard I know and I just love it, love it (Keegan style)

[Tommy!]

Great news Keith, in both the positive of the support there for you and your own approach to it which shows fantastic sense of self awareness and understanding.

I think any way, I might have worded that all wrong.

 

On the relationship front, I took a lass out a couple of times last month, for tea and for some Christmas shopping.

That's it really, I don't lead a life even half as interesting as most of you.

It's all gone a bit quiet now mind, but then I'm about as interesting as a audio book on wallpaper read by Steve Davis so it's not a massive shock.

[Maverick]

Hi guys, I'm not really into tinder but have it to see if Id get any matches etc but never bother starting convos etc. I matched with a decent looking girl who started messaging me so I engaged, been chatting a day or so and she seems nice. I'm wondering what tinder etiquette is, should I/when should I ask her out? Dont want to seem like a creep but dont want to give the impression im not interested or wasting their time either.

[Chest Rockwell]

Immediately. That's the whole point of Tinder. No one is there for a long courtship.

[Scott Malbranque]

Fully agree with Chest there.
It's only a place for either pulling the stomach out of yourself or meeting up and having a quick goose.  A lot of my mates (both male and female) are in long term relationships yet are regular frequenters of said app just "for fun".

So add me to the stable that would confidently lay their cards down and say there's no long term future for any courtships made there, Mavs!

[Chest Rockwell]

I wouldn't say there's definitely not any chance of something longterm developing. But it's certainly not the place to go if that's specifically what you're looking for, nor is it the place to go to play coy.

[UK Kat Von D]

Tinder is mostly just for getting laid. Anybody used happn? It's an incredibly creepy app that only shows people you have walked past in the street and will tell you how close they are from as close as 250 meters. Can be good fun on a night out

[Maverick]

Fair dues, have no real expectations but intrigued to see how it plays out. Don't even know if shes interested but tge fact chattings gone into a second day has made me think she might be. Im abit clueless, will ask today and report back.

[Chest Rockwell]

Good luck fella.

[thevestofdeanambrose]

Hello guys,

Long time lurker (years I have been visiting here haha) first post. Sorry its in the relationship thread but you guys are good at giving advice!

 

So I was with this girl for just over three months which you would think is not alot of time to be fair. Just for the record its not a first relationship or anything I have had a few long term previous relationships and have a lovely little girl from one of them anyways to my point..

 

As I was saying we were only together three months but seemed perfect for each other and I have never felt this way about any previous girl before and she felt the same way I would go as far as to say we were in love buttt I managed to fuck it up if im honest.

 

It all started when I lost my job which is always shit early in a relationship and then this mixed in with to much drinking and partying and drug use which in turn caused paranoia and truth be told I turned into an arsehole and I fully regret it and this all ended back in October time but I just cant stop thinking about this girl its weird seeing as we were only together a short time. We have spoke a couple of times last year but it seemed to turn to arguments due to my behavior and mentioned above the paranoia and arsehole behavior caused by the drinking and drugs. Also she seemed tot hink I always put my friends first and U was selfish but I think this was all related to to the above. 

 

Anyways fast forward to now and i am no longer drinking ior substance abusing and have a clear head for the first time in a long time and I still cant stop thinking about her and im not sure the right approach to take to get her back which I think is what I want. It seems we just met at the wrong time in each others lifes. Her life was quite stressful too and I defo was not helping. Do I drop her a text? Do I just leave it and move on and try and forget about her? Can I just add there has been other girls in the mean time but it hasnt helped at all.

 

Hope this makes any some sense!

Edited January 15, 2016 by thevestofdeanambrose

[MungoChutney]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Drop her a text admitting you weren't behaving like you should have been, mention that you're no longer on the piss/drugs and say you'd like to give it another go.