Paid Members Carbomb Posted June 19, 2016 Paid Members Share Posted June 19, 2016 (edited) Can't speak for anyone else, but I personally would be overjoyed if a woman asked me out - mainly because it just doesn't happen normally; it's usually down to me to ask her out. Â Usually it's a guy asking for this sort of advice, so I'll tell you what I (and others) tend to say: Go for it. The worst thing that can happen is that he says "No", and you've got just as good a chance of getting a "Yes" anyway. Not to mention that, even if he turns you down, you should feel good for having the courage to put yourself out there. You won't make a tit out of yourself - if he says "Yes", all great, and in the off-chance he says "No", if he's worth a damn, he'll be nice and polite about it. If he's a dick about it, then you shouldn't give a shit because he wasn't worth bothering about in the first place. Â Put it another way: would you rather risk regretting never finding out what might have been, or the possibility of being rejected but at least knowing you had the nerve to ask? Edited June 19, 2016 by Carbomb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paid Members Surf Digby Posted June 20, 2016 Paid Members Share Posted June 20, 2016 Girls asking is fine. Â I'm equally terrible about approaching women, and would prefer them to show the first signs of interest. On the occasions where I have made the first move, it's usually resulted in expressions of either confusion or revulsion. Â Even if he's not interested/already attached/celibate/gay, he'll appreciate the fact that someone was interested in him. Men's egos are fragile like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ladiesman345 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Just ask him, I'm always pleasantly surprised when a girl asks. It's really cool, and normally means the woman is modern and progressive thinking. Massive generalization, I know! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Houchen Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Yeah, ask him, Monkee. You're wonderful so he must be worth it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paid Members LaGoosh Posted June 20, 2016 Paid Members Share Posted June 20, 2016 Definitely ask him. I've only been asked out by a girl once but I was so pleasantly surprised to even be asked that I immediately said yes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MVP RULZ Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 I got asked out by a Girl In 2009 for the 1st tine ever  Here we are 7 years later I am now married to that same girl with a beautifull daughter  Go for it as others said its better to have asked and been shot down then to do nothing and spend the whole time wondering what might've be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deathrey Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 I made the first move as such with ny boyfriend. We'd been friends for a while but I was the one who came clean about my real feelings Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Chest Rockwell Posted June 20, 2016 Moderators Share Posted June 20, 2016 Damn, that must have been pretty nerve wracking; so much worse than knowing that if you fuck it all up at least you never have to see the person again. How long had you been friends? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deathrey Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Yeah it was pretty nerve wrecking, made worse by the fact he was one of my cousins best friends and when I mentioned he and I seeing each other my cousin had said over his dead body and told my fella to stop speaking to me (which lasted all of about 2 weeks). Â We had been friends for about 8 months when I told him. We'd become very close in that time and spoke pretty much everyday throughout those 8 months other than those 2 weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patiirc Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Good luck, Monkee. Hope it works out!  Going back to the Tinder debate. I'm banned and have been for 6 months for no reason and no response from Tinder Support, Tinder CEO and various questions on their FB and Twitter.  Lesbian dating is fucking weird, as all everyone seems to want to do is swap pics and vids, an actual date is apparently beyond comprehension.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonworden Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 Possibly full of a lot of "curious girls" in a "safe place" looking to do the least bit of experimenting they can. I could imagine Tinder was full of those types which would make it a fucking pain for genuine girls. Â I'm genuinely worried about a few of my guy mates back home about to hit 30 and none have had much of a snifter of a lady as far as I know (although I honestly don't know with two of them they couldve had some experiences). They must all be super shy by now about it. I really want to help them sort it out and find someone nice. The problem is I can't see that ever happening if they stay in their dead end jobs in the village we're from. I'd love to drag them out to Asia with me as I know they'd find a nice simple girl out here probably more in tune with their lifestyles and accepting (this is not a knock on western women in case anyone wants to bring that argument up, just accurate for this situation). If it didnt last it would at least give them some life motivation perhaps which they don't have right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Polish Dad Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 For those following along, tonight's date went incredibly well (At least, I think so). Good food, non-stop conversation, and hopefully another date next week. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deathrey Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 I'm happy for you, good stuff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr_Danger Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 Yeah it was pretty nerve wrecking, made worse by the fact he was one of my cousins..... Thought we were getting another classic UKFF moment here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deathrey Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 (edited) Haha, no no, I've not got quite that desperate, I'd shoot myself before that happened Edited June 23, 2016 by deathrey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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