Guest Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 Cheers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ladiesman345 Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 If a payment was triggered at 4pm on a Friday , would the 8 hours left on the Friday count as one of the three days it takes to hit my account? Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Houchen Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 All depends on whether the BACS file was run before or after 4. My employer tend to do it after 5 but then you're reliant on the receiving bank processing it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ladiesman345 Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Thank you very much! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patiirc Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 So, my last 10 days or so have been uber shit, My fiancee, dumped me via Facebook and has now ran off with someone else I've had a colonoscopy, for cancer testing/other foul diseases I have been served with notice to quit my house in 3 weeks as it's been sold and I have no where to go as my house purchase is pretty much dead in the water. I have been diagnosed with Anxious Attachment Order, which has resulted in my parents fucking off I od'd on Ibropufen again, in part due to Champix messing with my mood receptors. Â Anyway, aside from all that, things are pretty good, and the quacks have put me on Sertraline (50mg). Is anyone else on them? and if so what side effects etc should I be looking out for. My mood is good, I'm actually not miserable for the first time in donkeys and seem stable, so that's a win. Â Also, does anyone have experience with Anxious Attachment and know what is best for combatting that. I've ordered some books and am getting counselling for that, but any real world tips would be much appreciated. Â Cheers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paid Members Surf Digby Posted November 9, 2015 Paid Members Share Posted November 9, 2015 things are pretty good, Glad to hear it. =) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Houchen Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 I read that and heard Chest laughing in my head. Fucking hell. pat. You ARE Unlucky Alf. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patiirc Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 I read that and heard Chest laughing in my head. Fucking hell. pat. You ARE Unlucky Alf. Bugger Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Chest Rockwell Posted November 10, 2015 Moderators Share Posted November 10, 2015 I was actually crying with laughter at Surf's post. Â Go on then, pat, what is anxious attachment? I can't seem to find a definition of it online without having to read a whole medical journal... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patiirc Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I was actually crying with laughter at Surf's post. Â Go on then, pat, what is anxious attachment? I can't seem to find a definition of it online without having to read a whole medical journal... In short, unconditional love was unavailable from primary care givers, during childhood and adolescence. Â Everything was condtional based on achieving or sticking to unhealthy rules. Â This in turn leads people with it to have no healthy self esteem, or idea of self as they have had to change themselves in order to be able to find/recieve any type of affection or love. Â It manifests itself as working too hard to please in all facets of life as conditional love has meant that can only accept love once targets or something has been achieved. Â It means latching on to wildly unstable and inappropriate friendships and relationships where any love is shown, in any form as an attempt to seek self worth and validation. Â Any of those people can become primary care givers, and as such any withdrawal of that care, causes massive separation anxiety and causes over reaction, clingyness, smothering to occur as the source of conditional love, no matter how inappropriate is withdrawn. Â Explains a fucking shitload of things to me and as to how I've been throughout life. Now just got to work on it, in terms of self worth, unlearning conditioning and how to attach healthily to relationships. Â Hope that helps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Chest Rockwell Posted November 10, 2015 Moderators Share Posted November 10, 2015 Hope that diagnosis helps you to take some much needed time off from relationships for a bit, pat! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patiirc Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Hope that diagnosis helps you to take some much needed time off from relationships for a bit, pat! Yeah it does. I've been 'banned' from even dating for at least six months by my mates so can get my house in order and not immediately latch on to the next abusive person that comes along. Â I'm starting to learn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sammorgz Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Life's a shitter sometimes Pat. Hopefully you get yourself sorted now and can have a healthy and stable relationship down the line! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glenryck Pilchards Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Get off the Champix Pat and find something else to use to quit smoking, I worked at a Smoking Cessation Clinic for a few months and in that short period I was amazed how many people I talked to had suicidal tendencies whilst taking it.  It sounds like you have enough drama in your life, the Champix will just add to it.    Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Undefeated Steak Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 One trick that helped me give up smoking was smoking cigarettes I didn't like (i.e. menthols and rollies). I enjoyed Marlboro Lights too much to just give up straight away, so I smoked roll ups and menthols for a couple of weeks. You get to the point where you just have a couple of tokes and throw the rest. Didn't take long for me to have cut down enough to just stop altogether. Recommend it to anyone who doesn't want to go the Champix, Nicorette, or vape route. Â Edit: FWIW, I didn't mind roll-ups as a rule but I bought brands I didn't like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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