Family members you actually hate

Quentin · January 5, 2011

I've never told this full story for some reason. Shame maybe. Anyway, here's something that I could do with getting off my chest to a bunch of strangers...

My mum's sister got married to this bloke Jeff. She had learning difficulties growing up. They had two kids together. He got in her head and she almost completely cut off contact with the rest of the family. When the first two kids were around 10 and 7, Jeff convinced them that my aunty was some sort of monster and managed to convince them to completely ignore her. Not talk to her. Not respond to her. Basically act as if she wasn't there. This sent her over the edge and she started to hear voices and all sorts of nasty stuff. She ended up in a padded room for a little while - not that we knew any of the cause as Jeff managed to play this all to be related to her earlier issues. She ended up going home to him after a stay in hospital and they had another child who is ten years younger than the next kid. After she'd had some treatment she started speaking to the family more and it got out that the middle kid (their only son) was noticeably acting up a lot and was encouraged by Jeff to bully her. This all came to a head when he was around 13 and threw a mug at my aunty, nearly blinding her. This ended up with my other aunty going round there, slapping the fuck out of the kid and knocking Jeff on his ass. Well overdue.

After this episode my aunty moved in with my nan, the oldest kid moved out with her fella and took the youngest daughter with her, leaving just Jeff and his son behind. After a couple of quiet years, the youngest child confessed to her sister that she had been sexually abused by Jeff when she was VERY young over several years. A call was made to Jeff to let him know he was fucked and he handed himself over to the police. He got 7 years. He was released after four.

Last that was heard from the son, he called his sister to say he was in Glasgow and needed money but wouldn't say what it was for. She refused, he got very angry and hasn't been in touch with the family since. I honestly wouldn't blink if someone told me he was dead.

The older girl now has three kids of her own and visits my aunty regularly and is looking after her sister who is now 16 and starting to come out of her shell a little bit at family gatherings.

My aunty still lives with my nan which works out great since they would both be alone otherwise. She was someone I was really uncomfortable around as a child as all I remember her doing was sitting silently staring and chain smoking. Now she's a really funny, active and lovely person to be around.

Jeff made a claim on the family home and was given a 40% share of it in court just before Christmas. I wouldn't know him if I walked by him in the street. It's probably for the best.

King Pitcos · January 5, 2011

Most of my family are absolute scumbags. Smackheads, burglars, fraudsters, IRA-supporters. And just awful, chavvy, argument-in-street divs. But I don't think there are any of them anymore that I'm feuding with, I'm on at least civil terms with 'em all. I'm too reliant on getting tenners in my cards from them at Christmas, and I'm hardly fit to judge anyone. My own moral compass is at least a little bit dodgy. I think wandshogun's cousin in the first post sounds like a right laugh, for example. I love a bit of statutory, mind.

I haven't spoken to my dad in about eighteen months, but that's because he's been dead, the poor fucker.

Steveo2007 · January 5, 2011

Two of my cousins are like those types already described.

One of them considers selling weed as work, never had a proper job in his life (in fact I don't think he's ever had a job, full stop) smokes and drinks all day and has 2 kids but he takes money off my nan who's 85 and living alone, always promises to pay her back but guess what, never does. My other cousin, his brother is exactly the same except this pricks so stupid he's in and out of prison and has three kids.

Problem I have with these two is not what they do or who they are. They can drink, smoke and scumbag themselves to death if they wanted it doesn't matter to me, it's the fact they go to my nan for money because she's old and a soft touch and they know that if they badger her enough she'll always give in. I wouldn't even do the "I blame the parents" thing as I'd usually do when observing people like this I see on Jezza or anything else, because the parents are such good people and never left their kids without anything which, although they undoubtedly meant well as parents, they've obviously done more harm than good.

There are other family members that grate on me a bit, but not as bad as the other two.

Daaaaaad! · January 5, 2011

I don't think Wendy fans can use computers. Their trotters make typing difficult.

If Wednesday fans had trotters, United fans would be on to the FA asking why they weren't given trotters first and complaining that their lack of trotters was causing them to lose.

Anyway, my relatives pale in comparison to everyone else's but I do have an uncle who is a massive twat. He's a grade-A bullshitter and would like to be considered a member of the upper class, which in turn apparently means he has to look down upon everyone else in the family. He talks like he's got a snake in his throat and he is constantly flaunting the supposed wealth his family have. What makes it more annoying though is that he had to work hard to get where he is and overcome some difficulties, but instead of embracing that, he ignores it and pretends that he had this posh upbringing. This combined with the fact that both of his parents are suffering from kidney failure which he seems fairly insistent on denying and shushing up just makes him an absolute wanker in my book.

bAzTNM#1 · January 5, 2011

My grandparents on my dad's (RIP) side didn't let my mother in their house because she was a Catholic, as they were hardcore Orange Parade people.

She went with my dad for over thirty years and they never once let her in their house. Glasgow was a not very tolerant city in the 70s.

Both grandparents have been dead for over a decade now.

neil's bitch · January 5, 2011

Most likely nothing like some of the worse storys on here but:

My uncle is a right bell end. Its a bit of a long story but my family is very diverese through splitting up and re-marrying going on, (my dad parents split and re married, as well as mine so i have a lot of reletives). My dad specifically only has 1 100% brother. He has several step / half brothers (most of which he gets on with better then most people do with there brothers/sisters) but he only has the one full blooded 100% brother from the same parents as him. (not that makes a difference really, but you'd think they might be closer after being together longer).

anyway, whilst they were growing up, everybody always said my dad was the worse of the two (always getting in fights, was 17 when i was born etc.....looked rough on paper), whilst my uncle was aparently very nice and quite, always keeping himself to himself. Various years later, my father had calmed down alot, and my uncle had moved over to ireland where my grandad + other family also live. After a few years he married a nice lady.........although she turned out to be very strange, and aparently turned him into a complete dick.

Moving on agian, he then called my grandad saying the government where about to reposes his house unless he payed them like

DJ Kris · January 5, 2011

My partners brother is an absolute cunt. I mean, Grade A Cunt. I know its a bit rich coming from me, but trust me, after 5 minutes living with this rat bastard you'd sooner live with Hitler, Mussolini, The Crazy Frog and Wagner. This guy is nearly 15 and he

... sounds like an awful lot of teenagers, but not in the same league as the two earlier scumbags.

This is what I was gonna say. Aside from the arse wiping, which is just bizzare, he sounds like a fairly typical teenager who is being pandered too far too much.

Last that was heard from the son, he called his sister to say he was in Glasgow and needed money but wouldn't say what it was for. She refused, he got very angry and hasn't been in touch with the family since. I honestly wouldn't blink if someone told me he was dead.

Bit harsh considering his behaviour seems to be the product of a cunt Dad.

Vito · January 5, 2011

Earlier this year a cousin found out that I was looking for a place to stay, her roommate had recently moved out and she wanted someone reliable to help pay the mortgage. The arrangement, all verbal, was that I'd pay rent and we'd split the gas and electricity 50/50. The first few months were great, until she got a rather well-off boyfriend and decided to quit work. Her boyfriend was around literally every fucking day along with his filthy stinking dog that'd bark constantly, I work nights and it wasn't unusual for them to leave the dog at home while they went out meaning I'd get woken up by the dog freaking out every time a leaf blew off of a tree. Eventually I started avoiding being at home as it was impossible to get any peace or privacy and eventually I heard through the grapevine that not only had her boyfriend moved in but I was still expected to pay half on the bills despite there being three people using the gas and electricity, when I brought this up I was essentially told "if you think it's unfair you can move out".

Eventually I cracked and decided to move into my own place, but the worst was to come. When I told my cousin I was leaving she locked me out of the house and tried to extort a large sum of money from me, when I threatened to get the Police involved she told me that I had to leave that day and gave me a two hour window to move everything I owned from her property. Because I'm such an unreasonable dick I cleared the room and even hoovered and dusted ensuring that the room was exactly as it was before I moved in. Days later I became homeless when my new flat fell through, the estate agent involved contacted my cousin for a landlord reference and she claimed to have never heard of me.

A load of my family swore never to talk to her again but since then my cousin has apparently brought their favour by taking them out for meals and buying them expensive Christmas presents. I found out later that her previous roommate had moved out under similar circumstances.

dangerously420 · January 5, 2011

Can't be arsed with my dad.

My dad works as a taxi driver. He starts work at 3am every day and comes home at 10am. He will drink a 20cl of Vodka and 4 cans of Stella in the space of 90 minutes and is pissed for the rest of the day and will fall asleep at 4 in the afternoon. I get annoyed as drinking 18 UK units of alcohol a day can't be good for you and don't want to see my dad die early from alcohol related illness. The maximum ammount of UK alcohol units an adult male should drink in a week is 28. He also smokes 20 cigarettes a day. A habit he started three years ago and my dad is 52 so to start smoking at 49 i thought was daft.

My mum tries to justify it by saying he is an adult and pays the bills in the house and gets stressed but that does not cut it with me. If i voice a concern my dad shouts at me.

FLips · January 5, 2011

Can't be arsed with my dad.

My dad works as a taxi driver. He starts work at 3am every day and comes home at 10am. He will drink a 20cl of Vodka and 4 cans of Stella in the space of 90 minutes and is pissed for the rest of the day and will fall asleep at 4 in the afternoon. I get annoyed as drinking 18 UK units of alcohol a day can't be good for you and don't want to see my dad die early from alcohol related illness. The maximum ammount of UK alcohol units an adult male should drink in a week is 28. He also smokes 20 cigarettes a day. A habit he started three years ago and my dad is 52 so to start smoking at 49 i thought was daft.

My mum tries to justify it by saying he is an adult and pays the bills in the house and gets stressed but that does not cut it with me. If i voice a concern my dad shouts at me.

How can you get stressed working possibly the least busy 7 hours of a day?. I can't think of many people getting Taxis between 3-7am.

Mike Castle · January 5, 2011

Can't be arsed with my dad.

My dad works as a taxi driver. He starts work at 3am every day and comes home at 10am. He will drink a 20cl of Vodka and 4 cans of Stella in the space of 90 minutes and is pissed for the rest of the day and will fall asleep at 4 in the afternoon. I get annoyed as drinking 18 UK units of alcohol a day can't be good for you and don't want to see my dad die early from alcohol related illness. The maximum ammount of UK alcohol units an adult male should drink in a week is 28. He also smokes 20 cigarettes a day. A habit he started three years ago and my dad is 52 so to start smoking at 49 i thought was daft.

My mum tries to justify it by saying he is an adult and pays the bills in the house and gets stressed but that does not cut it with me. If i voice a concern my dad shouts at me.

How can you get stressed working possibly the least busy 7 hours of a day?. I can't think of many people getting Taxis between 3-7am.

Well from about 6am to 9am you'd have the school contract hours, but if he's not working after 3pm, I doubt they would give him the contracts because most companies like to have regular drivers and passanger escorts doing the jobs so that teachers and such know who the people are. Which means he's really only likely to be working busy if there are airport runs during those hours, or the idiots who miss their bus going to work from about 7am on.

mikey · January 6, 2011

Earlier this year a cousin found out that I was looking for a place to stay, her roommate had recently moved out and she wanted someone reliable to help pay the mortgage. The arrangement, all verbal, was that I'd pay rent and we'd split the gas and electricity 50/50. The first few months were great, until she got a rather well-off boyfriend and decided to quit work. Her boyfriend was around literally every fucking day along with his filthy stinking dog that'd bark constantly, I work nights and it wasn't unusual for them to leave the dog at home while they went out meaning I'd get woken up by the dog freaking out every time a leaf blew off of a tree. Eventually I started avoiding being at home as it was impossible to get any peace or privacy and eventually I heard through the grapevine that not only had her boyfriend moved in but I was still expected to pay half on the bills despite there being three people using the gas and electricity, when I brought this up I was essentially told "if you think it's unfair you can move out".

Eventually I cracked and decided to move into my own place, but the worst was to come. When I told my cousin I was leaving she locked me out of the house and tried to extort a large sum of money from me, when I threatened to get the Police involved she told me that I had to leave that day and gave me a two hour window to move everything I owned from her property. Because I'm such an unreasonable dick I cleared the room and even hoovered and dusted ensuring that the room was exactly as it was before I moved in. Days later I became homeless when my new flat fell through, the estate agent involved contacted my cousin for a landlord reference and she claimed to have never heard of me.

A load of my family swore never to talk to her again but since then my cousin has apparently brought their favour by taking them out for meals and buying them expensive Christmas presents. I found out later that her previous roommate had moved out under similar circumstances.

Technically, she broke the law from moment one. You were in her house as a lodger and yet she charged you rent AND bills. As a lodger, she should be charging you a fixed rent with all bills included. I hate people who abuse family.

I have a cousin who has been in prison. He has his own business now but he's been in prison twice; once in England, once in Switzerland. Every time he does something, he gets caught and there's always some parasite pushing him to do something illegal. His father even exploited that he couldn't get a job after an assault conviction to get him into drug running. However, he's a good guy. He fought his lying ex-wife in court to have access to his daughter, he took on his partner's stepson and they now have another daughter together.

britishwrestlinglegends · January 6, 2011

My partners brother is an absolute cunt. I mean, Grade A Cunt. I know its a bit rich coming from me, but trust me, after 5 minutes living with this rat bastard you'd sooner live with Hitler, Mussolini, The Crazy Frog and Wagner. This guy is nearly 15 and he:

1, Sits around and never does a lick of housework

2, Leaves any homework/coursework to the last minute (IE: Midnight the day before its due) and then cries and complains that he can't do it or doesn't understand it and gets his mum to do it

3, Treats his mum like a walking ATM

4, Answers everyone back and says that anything his sister and I like is crap

5, Hits and slaps his mum

6, Orders his meals, usually something completely different to what everyone else is eating so his mum has to cook ANOTHER meal, to be brought to him

7, Changes the channel if his mum is watching something

8, And possibly worst of all, he still gets his mum to wipe his arse for him

Of course I've spoken to the future Father-In-Law about this, and I get back "Oh, he's only a child, he doesn't know any better, you shouldn't judge him by an adults standards". How I have managed to not throttle the little bastard is beyond me.

please tell me N0.8 is an exaggeration.............P L E A S E

WWEFan1980 · January 6, 2011

I don't think any of you ever been disowned by your own father, kicked out on, the streets, screwed out of a 3 bedroom house and one hundred grand?

Well I Have

I recall on the 6/6/06 moments after walking out of my fathers new flat screaming at the top of my lungs ill never talk to that son of a ***** again, and you know what 5 long years its been ain't spoken a word to him, his health is deteriorating so what why should I care?

My mother bless her heart and soul passed away in 1998 and I do not care if you Wan't to mock me because karma will strike down upon you so hard, I'll laugh when you need help and not give that help.

Passed away April 1998 finding out the news hit me so hard

I was happy in college doing Construction, Retail, Number power, computers, clait all that stuff leaving late and having to go home me thinking go home tell mum what a day i have had to find out your father is there mums fell off the bus speculation until he said mum's dead it hit me straight through me like a hot knife through butter.

Going to the hospital to identify her body is something I don't think many of you has ever experienced.

Funny enough i recall laying in my bed no emotion at all watching cartoon network my uncle Derek comes in and consoles me and said she is not ever coming back it took me several years to find out what that meant, and me being deeply spiritual she is my guardian angel.

Back to my father since 2006 not any of his side of the family has not contacted me to find out what going on I'm saving that for my father's funeral, to open up the biggest can of whoop ass and serve it RAW!!!!

I find it funny my friends said you'll talk to him he's your dad, all the sob stories has not budged me one did to give me a guilty conscience thought about it and snapped out of it.

I belive my uncle Tony said it best tony when my father was complaining to him about me not speaking to him "what do you expect you kicked him out" how do you think he is going to react when you do that to your own son?

"If Linda was still alive Bernie would be dead and if mum was still alive Joyce and Percy" my mothers parents rest assured he would be dead within a matter of moments.

To speak the truth that I speak cannot handle it try and stop me you put this thread here you wanted an answer I gave you an answer.

I'm happy to see you guys with balls to stand up to what you belive in and i'm sorry for getting emotional or too deep i cannot help it its the way I am.

Amen to you all

WWEFan1980 · January 6, 2011