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Years ago, I watched Dancer in the Dark. I’ve watched it once since, in a misguided attempt to impress the wife, back when we were dating. It’s such a tough watch, especially on second viewing when you know how it ends. It’s a film that haunts me still. It’s beautiful, but I can’t bring myself to give it another watch. Anything similar for you? 

Just finishing 'Once Upon a River', by Diane Setterfield and read by Juliet Stevenson. It's a simple, gorgeous, gentle mystery, and wonderfully narrated. If you just need something on while you're doing other things, or on a long drive, this one works a treat. 

16 hours ago, Carbomb said:

Also, you and your lovely lady were always good eggs in my book. 

Very kind. Sarah, (the wife / Eden Black) cherishes those positive memories/relationships, as she has quite a few shitty ones too, with certain people taking liberties, etc. I never had any difficulties with that sort of thing, thankfully, and although I'll always regret not putting more into the business, I had a pretty good time, in all. 

I had very small involvement in UK wrestling some 18 - 20 years ago, worked a few shows, met a few locker rooms, housed some imports and drove a few people around. The wife and I were fortunate to work a few IWW tapings, and we both agree that the welcoming atmosphere was vast. Manson, Vinny, Sheamus and everyone in between were amazing. We've put up Manson since, alongside Shimmer regulars, Mschif,and Alison Danger, and all were some of the nicest people we've encountered in wrestling. Len Davies, while he may have his flaws in business, is as giving a person as I've ever met. A bit of a polarizing character though, I'm sure.   

Just finished 'Where the Crawdads Sing' by Delia Owens. A hauntingly gentle, simple, and wonderfully written and read story. Well worth throwing into your earballs.   

Audible's Sandman is a good, immersive listen. I've not gone through the comic books, for which I am ashamed, but I understood these well enough. Just finished The Midnight Library, by Matt Haig, which is pretty amazing also.

It may be a stretch away from the rest of this thread, but Sarah & Duck on CBBC is so good. It reminds me of a brief Bellville Rendez-vous. So bloody good! 

Re-visiting Perdido Street Station, by China Miéville. It's vast, but never feels like a slog. Or rarely. A really engrossing read, but stamina is required. 

In my 'Happy Place' NXT has Thatcher as World champ, McAfee with the North American title, and Thatcher and McAfee as tag-champs. I'd be quite happy with that. 

It’s the movie theme I find myself humming more than any other. 

It may have been mentioned before, but I’m sliding through Goliath on Prime so easily. I have a crush on Patty, which helps. 

The stand-out musicals I've seen have been Waitress, Blood Brothers, (for the fifth time) and The Book of Mormon, Rocky Horror, and Sweeny Todd. I'm not usually a musicals guy, (fucking hate panto too) as I prefer my theatre physical or straight, but in the same way that I'm not a fan of most ska or reggae music, but like the odd song, some musicals blow me away. 

Likewise, NSFW. I used to work at a club called Heaven, in London. I heard this a lot. 

In response to the excellent Transformers thread. This song will never age for me.

Why would anyone consider that funny, or a worthwhile use of their time? 

I was never a fan of 'Flyin' Brian. I adored the Hollywood Blondes. 'The Loose Cannon' was brief, stunted, but showed sparks of genius. I love the passion on display here. 

46 minutes ago, Chest Rockwell said:

I know this happens but it all seems so strange and alien. How do you even go about helping someone to manage something like that? I assume you mean just manage not acting on their impulses, right? Surely it's not something you can 'cure'?

No, most evidence highlights zero cure, sadly. There’s still quite a lot unknown about the affliction, despite family history studies, and a good deal more. Therapy was largely re-enactments, drama, role-play, practising what to do/say in ‘difficult’ situations. It was a disheartening and worrying place to work at times. There is, (or was at the time) good evidence though that a significant number of those seeking support, don’t go on to actually harm a child/ren. Unfortunately, it’s likely a minuscule number that do seek help. 

1 hour ago, kamicazze said:

 I don't really think you can teach a nonce not to be a nonce. 

When I began working in psychiatric units, I was surprised by the number of people self-admitting due to their attraction for underage people. The disgust they felt for their own paedophilic desires overcame the wish to act out on those desires, and allowed them to seek support in managing this. So, while you're correct to some degree, not all indulge in pederasty, which is certainly the greater crime.  

20 hours ago, Merzbow said:

Three posts in and I haven't ruined this thread yet? Time to remedy that.
A very NSFW banger.
 

 

I can’t seem to find this, at least on iTunes. Any suggestions? I like! 

There's something wonderfully life-affirming about seeing Liger, smiling, in a check shirt. 

19 minutes ago, patiirc said:

You're suggestion is like them we should hide from all the prejudice and hate by ignoring it and let those who arent trans discuss it like adults in the room. it's actually the very definition of discrimination I'm also saddened that so many have brought in to the myth that we're somehow a danger. it's like the 1980s gay discourse all over again and it's really depressing to see that people see danger and are slipping into a discussion when gender roles are firmly back to traditional 1950s crap where men are men, women are women and need protection from men, by mens actions, which is effectively what you're asserting. The Internet has a lot to answer for and the way in which people are so easily radicalised to hate and not even recognise it is extremely depressing. 

Thanks, but if it's OK, I'll assert what I'm asserting, not what you wish to read into my assertions. Clearly, I didn't suggest hiding from prejudice, nor ignore it. You stated that you were tired of the 'fight', and if that's the case, and you wish this group to remain a place where you can be yourself, why not skip this particular discussion? Others have the right to go back and forth with ideas, illuminate subjects and learn without having to tread carefully for fear of upsetting someone, surely? Is that not what healthy discourse is about? Personally, I would like everything to be discussed, brought into the light, so that education is possible, which - I hope - would allay any fears, worries, prejudices, some people may instinctively hold. 

I disagree with your next point utterly. Women do need protection from men. Men commit the vast majority of violent crimes against women. The vast majority. Also the vast majority of violent crimes against trans people. I did not mention gender roles, or that trans people are 'likely' to be a danger to women. If you wish to, and it's fine if you don't, but address what I've actually written, not a straw-man.

Finally, please illustrate the hate that you suggest I am not recognising. 

5 hours ago, patiirc said:

I thought maybe that i didn't have to fight agsin. it is so tiring 

If you're uncomfortable with a subject being discussed, and it causes you distress, why not avoid the page? Also, where in this thread is this 'fight'? 

What you've endured over the last 12 months sounds incredibly sad, scary and frustrating, but the governments duty to ensure they're doing what's necessary to protect women does not deny trans people their rights, as I see it. If I'm wrong in that, please explain.   

13 minutes ago, Devon Malcolm said:

The last time we had a discussion about trans and non-binary people on here, it was just as depressing and disappointing as this one is edging towards being.

I'll retract my question then. I read enough hate/drama/bilge/fierce-opinion, etc on Twitter. Never let this place become Twitter!