Stunner

 

I've only heard her screaming shite, and the one her and John stole from Frank Zappa. I might give these a whirl out of curiosity.

Dont Worry Kyoko is a a *helluva* tune

 

Not sure if you're being serious or not... but I absolutely am an admirer of that song. It's about her daughter who had been kidnapped (albeit by her father), so it's effectively Yoko screaming her anger and pain over a mind-melting blues riff (and what a band behind her as well - John Lennon, Ringo Starr, Eric Clapton and Klaus Voormann).

In terms of her "screamy" stuff though - "Why" is absolutely up there too and possibly even more intense. It's essentially a "guitar battle" between John and herself, the catch being Yoko's vocalising really!

The main problem with Yoko is that the first stuff Yoko put out as a "Beatle wife" were the Unfinished Music albums with John. And they're nothing but self-indulgent bollocks. Going from that stuff to "Don't Worry Kyoko" and "Why" makes you form a rather different opinion on them than if you come at them after hearing Approximately Infinite Universe, or Season Of Glass, or her more recent stuff.

Yeah, Revolution In The Head is great - lent it out once and never saw it again.

Might as well say this in here, and face whatever wrath I receive - but I'm actually a huge Yoko Ono fan - she's written more than her fair share of brilliant songs, not just in the avant garde "caterwauling" stuff, but in genuine funk-rock. Great songwriter.

Not only is Yoko's Approximately Infinite Universe one of my all-time favourite albums, but is actually a treat for John Lennon fans as it pretty much displays the best guitar he ever laid down. His best guitar work is almost invariably on Ono stuff.

Credit it where it's due, putting the title on Sheamus may have been a master stroke. Give it to a heel so lacking in momentum and people will be crying for Reigns.

I too am thinking Reigns-HHH and Cena-Taker for Mania. Surely they won't put Lesnar in an IC title match? I'm wondering if it'll be Lesnar-Owens?

Is nobody else thinking this is a particularly elongated Dusty finish? The attack on Vince will make them give the title back to Sheamus?

Stunner how did your situation end up?

Yeah Stunner, how did that come out for you.

I really don't know...

After a week of nothing, she messages me and starts a kind of (not remotely) subtle "Hmm, I haven't touched alcohol since! It's probably just a well because i say and do silly things when I'm drunk smiley-face!", I told her that it was stupid and that I was stepping back, which she didn't really respond to.

Flash-forward, what, three months or so? And I'll still get a message from her every fortnight or so along the lines "Hey, how are you?", or, on my birthday, an 8am message saying she's got us gig tickets for a band I like. Another friend, who doesn't know about this, mentioned how she's been "aggressively" (their words) pursuing everyone about throwing me a birthday party. It was now a month ago and she's still on it, apparently.

It's getting beyond ridiculous now, and whilst still having feelings for her, really, I'm getting more and more glad I stepped away from it all. She's still with her boyfriend, of course, and he's none the wiser.

Great advice as ever; thanks.

Just send her a dick pic

Except maybe here!

Anyway... nothing's happened. I stopped talking but she's quickly messaging me on flimsy reasoning again - I'd like to assume she's intelligent enough to know that if she decides to start anew with her boyfriend, she's going to have to quit finding any excuse to talk to me every day, in fact quit talking to me entirely, really.

Just to make it clear... I do believe that she has serious feelings for me like I do for her, and I don't believe she's purposely leading me on for the giggles. However it is clear to me that she is using the situation to her advantage, that she's loving the attention, and that - in her cowardice - she's continually coming to an unworkable conclusion wherein she'll stay in her unhappy relationship rather than rock the boat, and just gain everything the relationship lacks from me instead. I wouldn't say I'm naive or anything.

One problem is our difference relationship histories. As I've mentioned before, I've had flings but never something I'd consider a genuine relationship, which is probably poor form considering I'm nearly 25. She's been in this relationship for seven years, since she was 15. Their relationship has quite clearly never evolved from that teenage romance stage, and even though she now has a proper job and responsibilities, they are still stuck in some weird "sleepover every Friday" routine. She's incapable of discussing her feelings with me unless she's drunk, wherein she insists on referring to everything ambiguously, or even basically in riddles. It's seriously like she's a mature, level-headed adult until it comes to her love life, at which point she reverts to that 15-year old girl again.

Anyway, I'm rambling again. I said to myself I'd give her a week after we get back to do it on her own terms, and that runs out tomorrow morning. It looks like I'm going to, as you say, go for the make-or-break question in the very near future.

So here's the post-Paris update regarding the girl I'm really into but is in a long-term relationship:

The first night the whole group go out to a bar my brother recommended: dimly lit, Bowie and Gainsbourg by vinyl, cool clientele: my dream basically. She gets drunk, and as ever, starts buying me drinks. Upon returning to the hotel, she follows me into my room that I'm sharing with a friend, lays down on the end of my bed and starts acting jealous about the fact I was talking to a girl at the bar, eventually she comes out with the question "Do you only go for girls in relationships because you fear commitment?" I tell her that, no, in fact I crave commitment, it just so happens the person I've fallen for is in one. We remain talking until gone 7am, at which point my friend "reminds" her of the time and suggests she get to sleep.

For the next couple of days she's very distant to me, refuses to do anything without the whole group and is generally quiet and withdrawn. At this point I accept that it's not going to happen. The third day starts the same way but as we go to the David Bowie exhibition (whom we both love) and then head to a record store she begins perking up massively and as I moot the idea of going back to the bar from Saturday, as it's our last night in Paris, she's all for it. Mercifully it's only myself, her and my close friend who go and we have a wonderful night. As we begin to leave, she grasps onto my hand again. My judgement suggests I pull away, and despite everything else begging me to hold on I do so, but she quickly locks arms instead. We get a taxi, wherein she tells me that she "wishes the two of us could stay here forever, there's too much back home that I don't want, too many people I don't want to see". She then tells me that she's "no longer letting people stand in the way of what makes me happy".

The next day, our final day, she's different. Previously, after tender moments she would become awkward and push me away, but not this time. Smiley, chatty, joking. And as we were waiting to depart, she disappeared with a friend, came back hugging, red eyes, shaky. When she goes to the toilet she tells us "she's told me she's leaving her boyfriend". Shit. Bear in mind they don't know about all this between us.

Since then, however, nothing. We've spoken a little but she's not been "available" much for anyone. And now I'm stuck in this awful waiting game, trying to find out whether she's left him, is leaving him, whether she's changed her mind. I'm going mad, and I don't know how long I should leave it before I really start worrying. I'm sticking with what I said earlier, that after Paris, if nothing happens then I'm moving on for good. But oh my, is this bit difficult.

I wouldn't really say I've been friendzoned because it's not like I've actually had a legit window of opportunity at any point, but yeah, I'm thinking going to the musical with her is probably a mistake. Alas, I've blown the £50 now so might as well...

The trip to Paris next month was my own idea and I have a few others coming along with me, including her. All I can think is that the four days away could help spell out the exact nature of her own "interest" - whether she's taking the piss or genuinely confused, and I'll act accordingly. Either way, I'm absolutely stepping back from all of this afterwards.

Bare-chested knife fight could also work, actually.

Thanks again, everyone.

 

Bit of an update on all this: after I admitted my feelings to her on the Sunday, I messaged her again on Wednesday asking if we were still friends, and began talking as if nothing happened. Next time I saw her was at a gathering last Friday - she got drunk, admitted she felt the same (getting bolder throughout the evening) though did pretty much suggest she wasn't going to leave her boyfriend. However as the evening wore on she got more than a little bold about what I had said, and began nagging about how I should "say it again", how she "knows what would make me happy" and I should "just say it". And, truth be told, I was quite surprised at how gleeful she is about the whole situation. Thing is, I've had flings and non-serious relationships but I've never actually had a proper, serious relationship before, probably bad going at 24 but it's something I was perfectly content to "find me" when the time was right. But at the cost of me not really getting what she's wanting here - whether she's simply loving the attention, or if she's essentially challenging me to make an ultimatum or something.

 

Anyway, we're going to a fucking West End musical soon (the things you bloody do), so I think the best thing to do is gauge how she is with me entirely sober, especially after last weeks' show. We're part of a group holiday thing next month as well, so I'm thinking I have four days away to try and get a serious, final answer. But I'm out of my depth here, truth be told.

 

 

Missed the most important bit:

 

If I was going to give you advice, I'd say bring up how you feel, and then literally walk away. If she comes back to you single then great.

 

You at great risk of getting utterly fucked with here. You're going to be spending time with a girl who has a boyfriend (is the boyfriend going on the group holiday too?) and is clearly toying with you at the moment. This is why I suggested leaving it alone until she's actually single. Beware.

 

Oh yeah, I'm being wary. The musical had been an "idea" for a while, and the trip has been booked for months. Her boyfriend isn't among the five of us going, however two of them are clearly not so keen on the idea of her leaving her boyfriend (not that they know much about it, other than the fact that they've both clearly moved on but they quite like her boyfriend, so think keeping them together is doing them a favour or something) so it's going to be a weird situation to wrestle with. But yes, as far as I'm concerned these two occasions are "it".

Nah... I'm cutting this long story short.

 

I'm in love with a girl, everything leads me to believe she reciprocates. She has a boyfriend but their relationship is, from what I have observed, pretty much dead but they're both too scared to end it. I want to tell her the truth just so I can get an answer to all this but I don't want to be the bastard getting her to leave someone.

 

What should I do?!

 

 

Yeah, it's the only thing to do. The thing that makes it so tricky for me is that we've become really close friends as well. Sometimes it actually feels like we're "together" in a way, albeit not physically, for we're doing stuff all the time: gigs, lunch/dinner, just casual stuff, and it's always just the two of us. We talk practically every day... I know that I have to tell her, but I'm not just hesitant about the boyfriend thing but because I'm scared to lose what we already have, I guess.

 

Thanks, everyone. I told her how I felt last night and her response wasn't what I hoped, but it is what I expected - she's absolutely not the type to make a rash decision on a whim. I'm disappointed, of course, and a little bit embarrassed as well, but I'm also a fair bit relieved that there are no presumptions and what-if's any more. The ball is in her court, she knows how I feel - and if it's true what others have been saying and that she feels the same way and has professed as much in drunken sincerity - then she'll have to think pretty deep about what next...

 

Cheers for the encouragement, though. I know what I had to do but was too worried!

Bit of an update on all this: after I admitted my feelings to her on the Sunday, I messaged her again on Wednesday asking if we were still friends, and began talking as if nothing happened. Next time I saw her was at a gathering last Friday - she got drunk, admitted she felt the same (getting bolder throughout the evening) though did pretty much suggest she wasn't going to leave her boyfriend. However as the evening wore on she got more than a little bold about what I had said, and began nagging about how I should "say it again", how she "knows what would make me happy" and I should "just say it". And, truth be told, I was quite surprised at how gleeful she is about the whole situation. Thing is, I've had flings and non-serious relationships but I've never actually had a proper, serious relationship before, probably bad going at 24 but it's something I was perfectly content to "find me" when the time was right. But at the cost of me not really getting what she's wanting here - whether she's simply loving the attention, or if she's essentially challenging me to make an ultimatum or something.

Anyway, we're going to a fucking West End musical soon (the things you bloody do), so I think the best thing to do is gauge how she is with me entirely sober, especially after last weeks' show. We're part of a group holiday thing next month as well, so I'm thinking I have four days away to try and get a serious, final answer. But I'm out of my depth here, truth be told.

Thanks, everyone. I told her how I felt last night and her response wasn't what I hoped, but it is what I expected - she's absolutely not the type to make a rash decision on a whim. I'm disappointed, of course, and a little bit embarrassed as well, but I'm also a fair bit relieved that there are no presumptions and what-if's any more. The ball is in her court, she knows how I feel - and if it's true what others have been saying and that she feels the same way and has professed as much in drunken sincerity - then she'll have to think pretty deep about what next...

Cheers for the encouragement, though. I know what I had to do but was too worried!

Do it.

 

Nah... I'm cutting this long story short.

 

I'm in love with a girl, everything leads me to believe she reciprocates. She has a boyfriend but their relationship is, from what I have observed, pretty much dead but they're both too scared to end it. I want to tell her the truth just so I can get an answer to all this but I don't want to be the bastard getting her to leave someone.

 

What should I do?!

Just do it or you'll always wish that you did. If she says no then at least you know right?

 

Yeah, it's the only thing to do. The thing that makes it so tricky for me is that we've become really close friends as well. Sometimes it actually feels like we're "together" in a way, albeit not physically, for we're doing stuff all the time: gigs, lunch/dinner, just casual stuff, and it's always just the two of us. We talk practically every day... I know that I have to tell her, but I'm not just hesitant about the boyfriend thing but because I'm scared to lose what we already have, I guess.

Nah... I'm cutting this long story short.

I'm in love with a girl, everything leads me to believe she reciprocates. She has a boyfriend but their relationship is, from what I have observed, pretty much dead but they're both too scared to end it. I want to tell her the truth just so I can get an answer to all this but I don't want to be the bastard getting her to leave someone.

What should I do?!

 

WWE's statement sums it up. Not their problem is it? They can't change the law in the Emirates.

They do have the power to not tour there as a socio-political statement.

 

There have been instances in the past, I believe, where groups and shows have not gone to countries where there is a disagreements over a fundamental dispute over a law deemed to infringe on a key human right.

And then those that have gone got shit for it, to keep the issue in the public conscience.

 

Indeed, to this day Queen get shit for the whole Sun City debacle. Though I appreciate these two scenarios are not nearly the same.

Kind of respect him for it though. In the space of 24 hours I've seen one wrestlers' penis and anothers' bollocks. What next?!

I'm sounding more and more like my dad every day, but she'd be a pretty girl if she didn't ruin herself with those tattoos.

I agree with you, and my dad is actually a tattoo artist!

Can't see this affecting Rollins as much as it will WM. Perhaps any possibility of Rollins cashing in the MITB on Reigns is all but gone now?

With WWE's penchant for piling the blame on whomever is of least importance to them, I'm far more concerned for the NXT Diva, even if she is a victim in all of this.

The victor in all this is probably my housemate, who has had a crush on Seth for God knows.

He should have gone semi-lob. It's impossible to look bad semi-lob. Prime status if someone's gonna view your penis.

Words of wisdom.

Thing is though, what Mick doesn't get is that we've all sussed out that he's probably always been like this. In his books he came off like a somewhat lovable friendly perennial loser who made it to the top through hard work and taking risks, who might've been a bit tight sometimes but was generally a good guy. However, more and more of his recent life decisions and public actions have made it clear that he was probably always a petulant man child with a deep hatred for spending money.

I'm not sure, really... I don't think Mick Foley is necessarily an arsehole or anything - but he set himself up for this fall when his book earned him a reputation as a down-to-earth, personable guy and he enthusiastically grabbed it with both hands and ran with it. Even those who are fed up with Mick are going to be a lot more disappointed if Foley takes advantage of fans or acts petulant than they would if, say, Kevin Nash did the same thing. I think, ultimately, he's a normal guy who has artificially pushed himself as the "nicest guy in wrestling". Combine that with the fact he lives in constant pain which is going to affect his mood and personality, and he's never going to live up to the ideal we had of him in 2001.

On that note though, who actually is the nicest guy in wrestling? Isn't it supposed to be Bobby Eaton?

They only count clean bones, so this wouldn't artificially improve his total one bit.

So yeah, reckon the stingy bastard was saving them for later. But at least now he's been caught out somebody has the pleasure of buying his dinner for him.

Like clockwork; love, lust and relationships turn otherwise sensible and reasonable people into nonsensical wrecks. Even in my mid-twenties I'm still moping around like a lovesick teenager.

Got friendly with a girl and we get on magnificently, to the point that I slowly fell for her over the months until I realised the other week I'm totally in love. Problem is she's in a five-year husk of a relationship she's clearly never going to end. So near yet so far.

Just read that Ted DiBiase, Jr. has left WWE, seems like it was his decision. Makes sense, how often has he been on TV over the past year?

On that note though, have you seen The Mountie's son Cedric Rougeau? Absolute monster, wouldn't be surprised to see him end up in WWE at all.

Anyone seen Tyler Reks' rants on Twitter today? Basically buried Cena, saying that he threatened to get him fired unless he changed his finishing move, also said Cena's been holding down Alex Riley.

He's mostly positive about everyone else - Jericho, Ziggler, Ryder, but when asked whether he likes Sheamus simply answered "no". It seems he may be angry because WWE won't pay for surgery he needs on his nose from an in-ring injury.

Can't really call him bitter as he retired of his own accord and wasn't released. Worth a follow though.

Metropolis, which I've been delaying watching for years. The film is 86 years old and quite how they had effects that good is staggering. It really is an incredible film.

(By the way, I'm not always this pretentious, to balance it out I might follow it with Scary Movie 5)

I've only really read the "obvious" books, but I enjoyed pretty much all of them. Bret Hart's was fantastic although he certainly made it hard for you to sympathise with him in places, Mick Foley's first two are both enjoyable and he has a great way with words but I don't think he was ever as over as he thinks he is. Nice guy, though.

William Regal's is a great read, especially for the way it merges the big stars in the States with some of the stars of British wrestling in it's heyday (a fair few of which pop up in Hart's book too, although of course much less so), not to mention that his battle with his demons is a gripping read in itself. The main issue I find is that he does seem to be desperately seeking Vince McMahon's respect and adulation, although maybe that's more to do with it being a WWE book than anything. Which is what I found the most disappointing with the book actually, as great as it is, and although his time on the British circuit does get a few chapters, it does seem to treat his time in the UK as just nothing more than the first course. I suppose it is, especially to it's main American audience, but I can't help but think that if Regal's book was independent we'd see a lot more depth and a lot more interesting stories about British wrestling at a time when it was really at a crossroads.

I enjoyed Chris Jericho's book but also found he was a bit too proud of himself and too quick to compliment himself in places (not that there's really a problem with that at all, nobody can deny his talent, but it did seem to happen a lot), he has good comic timing and really makes his life story exciting, though, and I came out liking him a lot more for the most part. The Death Of WCW was a great read, especially when you remember it's mostly intended to be humorous rather than 100% fair and accurate towards its subject. My main issue with it was it's obsession with ratings and figures and buyrates, at times it was just an overload of numbers.

I also recently skimmed through Brock Lesnar's book, particularly his WWE career, and I found him to be a total crybaby. He doesn't have an issue being sent straight into the promotion to steamroll his way through the entire roster, he didn't see any problems with the fact Hulk Hogan allowed Lesnar to completely destroy him on TV (and even gets a dig in at Hogan whilst mentioning it), and also was perfectly happy for The Rock to lose clean to him at Summerslam, but as soon as The Rock was booked to get a win back he rants about how everybody had "betrayed" him, how he was being sold down the river, and how from that point he wanted to leave. He then accuses Kurt Angle, "the only person he thought he could trust" of stabbing him in the back because he had confided to Angle that he wanted to leave, and then soon afterwards was told he was dropping the title to Eddie Guerrero, and also saw that Angle's most recent phonecall on his mobile had been to Vince, thus proving Angle had grassed on him and he was being "punished", even though earlier in the same paragraph he mentioned how The Rock was "wise" for constantly calling Vince nearly every day to keep abreast of character development.

He also gives no information on how matches went but instead tells us whether the money was good or not, and seems to make a habit of bragging about how he was the toughest guy backstage. Ugh.

EDIT: Forgot to add, does anyone know where I can get Dynamite Kid's book for a reasonable price? Less than a tenner, really. The only place I can find a copy that isn't really expensive is Highspots who are only charging $4.99, fantastic deal but not any cheaper when you factor in shipping.