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Any Dads on here who have experience of going through/supporting a partner through a difficult pregnancy?

As the weeks have gone on pregnancy has become more difficult for Mrs DD. She has low Pap A, gestational diabetes, pelvic girdle pain and baby has been in the fully breached position for the past few months. We are now thinking an elective caeserian is going to the best option for her. 

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@Divorced DadNot a dad but currently experiencing some of the same issues as your wife. How far along is she? I've got awful pelvic girdle pain and am really struggle to move around and do much. Sleeping is difficult due to back ache and my baby seems to be playing Twister in there, one minute its engaged and the right way up, then its breech, it spent most of last night transverse which was deeply uncomfortable. I'm 38 weeks and looks like an elective is going to be the route I'm taking too, for various personal reasons along with the ones mentioned here.

Has she had chance to speak to a consultant midwife yet? Mine was great and really talked through all the pros and cons with me and my husband, if she hasn't done that yet, I would ask for a referral.

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9 hours ago, Divorced Dad said:

Any Dads on here who have experience of going through/supporting a partner through a difficult pregnancy?

Yup, it's not a lot of fun for all concerned.  Suspected ectopic, turned out ok just a ton of discomfort in the first two trimesters which resulted in being on the heart monitor straps every week.  As she got full size she was in breach.  Early labour kicked in at 8 months which resulted in an emergency c-section due to breach and 2+ weeks in neonatal intensive care.

Sometimes all you can do is stand there and look pretty, hold a hand, and unwrap a Twix.

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8 hours ago, deathrey said:

@Divorced DadNot a dad but currently experiencing some of the same issues as your wife. How far along is she? I've got awful pelvic girdle pain and am really struggle to move around and do much. Sleeping is difficult due to back ache and my baby seems to be playing Twister in there, one minute its engaged and the right way up, then its breech, it spent most of last night transverse which was deeply uncomfortable. I'm 38 weeks and looks like an elective is going to be the route I'm taking too, for various personal reasons along with the ones mentioned here.

Has she had chance to speak to a consultant midwife yet? Mine was great and really talked through all the pros and cons with me and my husband, if she hasn't done that yet, I would ask for a referral.

Shes 33 weeks just now so still a while to go. She's been discharged from the community midwife and all her care is now being done through the hospital but we've had no contact from the consultant there yet. 

She's quite anxious about the birth now and the potential complications so we're thinking of going for an elective section.

@johnnyboyno Twix's for Mrs DD unfortunately due to the gestational diabetes. I can pass her an apple instead.

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8 minutes ago, Divorced Dad said:

 

@johnnyboyno Twix's for Mrs DD unfortunately due to the gestational diabetes. I can pass her an apple instead.

Have a Twix yourself, keep your sugars up.

Try and keep yourself as calm as possible, which I know is far easier said than done, as your Mrs will be able to do the worrying for both of you.

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The consultant midwife is usually based at the hospital. I was seen by the Obstetrician at the hospital  but they wanted me to see the Consultant Midwife before agreeing to the C-Section and I'm really glad that I did as she was brilliant. I recommend asking for it from your specialist at the hospital.

@Divorced Dadshe may already be doing all these things but these helped:

If your wife doesnt have one already, my husband bought me a pregnancy support band and it has really helped with the pelvic girdle pain, he got it from Amazon so to take a look. Does she have a gym ball/birthing ball? They are great for getting the baby in the right position and again help with Pelvic Girdle pain. Again, look on Amazon or similar and get a gym anti burst one, they are exactly the same as pregnancy balls but cheaper because they dont use the word 'pregnancy'. 

Offer lots of back rubs as the later you get on in pregnancy, the worse your back gets in my experience. I now sleep on a pregnancy pillow and have what I can only describe as a pillow for around me to get comfortable, a pillow better the knees really eases pelvic girdle pain and hip pain.

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So my planned C-Section won't be happening. I ended up having an emergency one at 5.30 this morning when baby decided to scare the shit out of us with the weirdest start to labour ever! My contractions started at 2.30am and by 5.30 I was in theatre and mum to a beautiful baby boy who arrived 2 weeks early. What an amazing feeling ❤

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