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Well Im luckily in a relationship thats going very well upto now nearly 6 months and we havent argued at all yet. Yeah theres times where its hard work but at the moment Im the happiest ive ever been and long may it continue. I have seen lots of other people and friends fuck many a relationship up before and Im hoping I dont follow that route.
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 18:04) 
I've never really understood people being against pro-creation. It's everyone's own choice of course, but I see it, personally, as something which is a part of our reason for being.
In my opinion that 'reason for existing' argument is the reason why there are so many unwanted and unloved children in the world, if childbirth was a privilege as opposed to a right then every child born would be given the love, attention and education that it deserved because only those who wanted children badly enough would be allowed to have them. It's not a popular opinion but it's what I believe.
QUOTE (Vito @ Aug 18 2006, 18:11)
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 18:04)
I've never really understood people being against pro-creation. It's everyone's own choice of course, but I see it, personally, as something which is a part of our reason for being.
In my opinion that 'reason for existing' argument is the reason why there are so many unwanted and unloved children in the world, if childbirth was a privilege as opposed to a right then every child born would be given the love, attention and education that it deserved because only those who wanted children badly enough would be allowed to have them. It's not a popular opinion but it's what I believe.
No, I agree again, childbirth is a privelege not a right but I think that privelege is something we should all embrace, as something that when we can offer that love, attention and education to our own children is when life would be at it's fullest. Obviously I'm not a parent myself but these are some of my hopes and dreams for my future.
QUOTE (Carbomb @ Aug 17 2006, 22:12)
QUOTE (freaky_jason @ Aug 17 2006, 21:53)
QUOTE (Carbomb @ Aug 17 2006, 21:38)
It was either Leicester Lantern, or freaky_jason, I think, who had the perfect solution to getting a woman, about 8 months or so ago, and it involved wrestling. I forget what exactly it was, though.
It was Lantern. He recommended that when you're on a date, you talk about wrestling as much as possible, and every time she tries to change the subject, always bring it back to wrestling.
Yeah - and as you walk her home, encourage her to practise her Macho Man impressions. Because chicks really dig tenacity.
Or something along those lines.
And evertime she says something reply "That reminds me of a Mashihiro Chono match".
Seriously, best post ever.
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 18:14)
No, I agree again, childbirth is a privelege not a right but I think that privelege is something we should all embrace, as something that when we can offer that love, attention and education to our own children is when life would be at it's fullest. Obviously I'm not a parent myself but these are some of my hopes and dreams for my future.
Sounds to me like this Vito guy is just making excuses. He wants everything that comes with being in a relationship but without being in a relationship. Sounds a bit selfish to me. The whole "I could have a girlfriend if I wanted one" reeks of cockiness imo. Is that a general statement in that you could have any girl if you wanted one or that there's one particular poor girl who just drops to her knees whenever you come calling?
It's nice to have someone to come home to (and screw whenever you want I imagine) and yet you don't want the relationship and you don't want kids. From only being here a few weeks (I lingered before posting) you sound like you're in your 20s but you talk about things as if you're 15 or something.
Not having a go, obviously. All these are just opinions.
I've read it completely differently, I think Vito is just stating his opinions and from what I gather he doesn't seem like the type of person who's sleeping around and treating girls badly. It's just that he doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment after getting out of a 3 year relationship.
That's just how I read it though.
That's just how I read it though.
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 18:24)
I've read it completely differently, I think Vito is just stating his opinions and from what I gather he doesn't seem like the type of person who's sleeping around and treating girls badly. It's just that he doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment after getting out of a 3 year relationship.
That's just how I read it though.
That's just how I read it though.
Maybe I've taken it the wrong way as well then. Just got a bit rattled about that one comment tbh. Maybe I'm just being cynical and bitter. Apologies to Vito in that case.
well ive been hit with 2 impossible questions
the first said mainly in jest i think which "i know u love me dont u", i replied with yes about as much as u love me, and later on i just said casually oh u look nice today, a minute later i get a mail saying "so your feelings towards me are slowly unravelling" i said u take what i said the way u want, maybe i do, thats for u to judge, but she is meeting me tom night, and going on hol to geneva in few weeks so hurrah i think!!
the first said mainly in jest i think which "i know u love me dont u", i replied with yes about as much as u love me, and later on i just said casually oh u look nice today, a minute later i get a mail saying "so your feelings towards me are slowly unravelling" i said u take what i said the way u want, maybe i do, thats for u to judge, but she is meeting me tom night, and going on hol to geneva in few weeks so hurrah i think!!
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 18:24)
I've read it completely differently, I think Vito is just stating his opinions and from what I gather he doesn't seem like the type of person who's sleeping around and treating girls badly. It's just that he doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment after getting out of a 3 year relationship.
That's just how I read it though.
That's just how I read it though.
You're bang on.
QUOTE (Vito @ Aug 18 2006, 17:47)
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 4:01)
The cool thing reading through this thread is that it is so blatant who is single and who is in a nice relationship. From the single blokes it's bitterness and resentment and from the blokes in a relationship it's a bit of hope and good vibes.
I could have a gilrfriend if I wanted one, I've just realised that it's not worth the effort.
What a MAN reply! Grr!
Ive never been in a relationship and right now i dont really feel the need to get into one unlike some friends..
I just take things as they come and enjoy it.
QUOTE (Beanie @ Aug 18 2006, 18:20)
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 18:14)
No, I agree again, childbirth is a privelege not a right but I think that privelege is something we should all embrace, as something that when we can offer that love, attention and education to our own children is when life would be at it's fullest. Obviously I'm not a parent myself but these are some of my hopes and dreams for my future.
Sounds to me like this Vito guy is just making excuses. He wants everything that comes with being in a relationship but without being in a relationship. Sounds a bit selfish to me. The whole "I could have a girlfriend if I wanted one" reeks of cockiness imo. Is that a general statement in that you could have any girl if you wanted one or that there's one particular poor girl who just drops to her knees whenever you come calling?
It's nice to have someone to come home to (and screw whenever you want I imagine) and yet you don't want the relationship and you don't want kids. From only being here a few weeks (I lingered before posting) you sound like you're in your 20s but you talk about things as if you're 15 or something.
Not having a go, obviously. All these are just opinions.
Never the case
Anyway my situation is slightly different to that of Mr. Andy's here as I've met a girl a few times whilst out with our mutual friend and we seem to have the same sense of humour whilst she's also incredibly attractive which to be honest is something of a first. Now I have got her number but how do I explain how i got it? Do I just say straight out I find her attractive and so asked the other girl for it or do I lie?
edit - typo.
QUOTE (libertine @ Aug 18 2006, 19:11)
well ive been hit with 2 impossible questions
the first said mainly in jest i think which "i know u love me dont u", i replied with yes about as much as u love me, and later on i just said casually oh u look nice today, a minute later i get a mail saying "so your feelings towards me are slowly unravelling" i said u take what i said the way u want, maybe i do, thats for u to judge, but she is meeting me tom night, and going on hol to geneva in few weeks so hurrah i think!!
the first said mainly in jest i think which "i know u love me dont u", i replied with yes about as much as u love me, and later on i just said casually oh u look nice today, a minute later i get a mail saying "so your feelings towards me are slowly unravelling" i said u take what i said the way u want, maybe i do, thats for u to judge, but she is meeting me tom night, and going on hol to geneva in few weeks so hurrah i think!!
That sounds weird. So, do you like this girl, is she your girlfriend, would you like her to be, what's the dealio?
If by like you mean find attractive and wish to hump then yes. She also happens to be something of a lesbian 
Wait, what?
I was referencing Libertine's extremely vague post and trying to get some more gossip out of him. I'll get on to yours in an uno momento PeterKay.
But, this girl is a lesbian?
I was referencing Libertine's extremely vague post and trying to get some more gossip out of him. I'll get on to yours in an uno momento PeterKay.
But, this girl is a lesbian?
yeah thats my thoughts hb andy, and to be honest since she did the whole speech wed night, she has been kinda off with me, so ive just let her get on withy things for the most part
QUOTE (libertine @ Aug 17 2006, 21:20)
yeah i was kinda in the same position till just last night, we known each other a while, a few months ago fell out big style, over the last few weeks we mended everything, and have been getting along great, and as our work has shit computers, we been sat at desks next to each other, and all we have been doing is flirting with each other for 2 weeks, i finally got round to telling her how i saw her, but didnt get any reply, so last night came the big letdown speech from her along the lines of " i think over last couple of weeks we have grown closer, and we have really bonded, i think your 1 in a million and ya a really special guy, i think your a really cute guy, i could lay in bed naked with u but nothing wil ever happen with us" obviously its hard to take, but things are still fine, we been chatting today as though nothing was said, and i admire the girl for never once gettin shitty or feeling awkward around me, just have to accept it and realise i have a really good friend! 
Found it.
This seems done and dusted. That's 'friend zone' for you. You'll be her shoulder to cry on when every guy who she goes with treats her bad. Someone's got to do it.
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 20:03)
QUOTE (libertine @ Aug 17 2006, 21:20)
yeah i was kinda in the same position till just last night, we known each other a while, a few months ago fell out big style, over the last few weeks we mended everything, and have been getting along great, and as our work has shit computers, we been sat at desks next to each other, and all we have been doing is flirting with each other for 2 weeks, i finally got round to telling her how i saw her, but didnt get any reply, so last night came the big letdown speech from her along the lines of " i think over last couple of weeks we have grown closer, and we have really bonded, i think your 1 in a million and ya a really special guy, i think your a really cute guy, i could lay in bed naked with u but nothing wil ever happen with us" obviously its hard to take, but things are still fine, we been chatting today as though nothing was said, and i admire the girl for never once gettin shitty or feeling awkward around me, just have to accept it and realise i have a really good friend!
Found it.
This seems done and dusted. That's 'friend zone' for you. You'll be her shoulder to cry on when every guy who she goes with treats her bad. Someone's got to do it.
Yeah, but you will get laid when she comes round when she "needs a friend" trust me, it works
id rather not just get laid, if it was just that id probably turn it down
Yeah, if you do that when the girl is crying on your shoulder and clearly in a vulnerable place then that's taking advantage. In those incidents you should just tell them straight and make them feel safe.
yeah true, im a patient guy, if anything does happen i can wait, she already knows whenever anything goes wrong she can come to me, and has a few times already, im not stupid enough to jeapordise any remote chance at all
QUOTE (ThatsRightILikePeterKay @ Aug 18 2006, 19:45)
Anyway my situation is slightly different to that of Mr. Andy's here as I've met a girl a few times whilst out with our mutual friend and we seem to have the same sense of humour whilst she's also incredibly attractive which to be honest is something of a first. Now I have got her number but how do I explain how i got it? Do I just say straight out I find her attractive and so asked the other girl for it or do I lie?
It depends on how confident you are that she likes you. If you're worried about it, just say that you've been enjoying spending time and thought you would see about getting her nubmer in order to arrange nights out and stuff with her more directly.
However, you have to consider that she will already know that you have her number, as the friend is 3000% certain to have told her. In the eventuality this is the case, you need to get in contact with her about it sooner rather than later - but not immediately. For example, if you got it today, text her on Sunday night - casual, yet interested. Don't go for being straight up with your feelings for her yet. Arrange a couple more oppertunities to see her, each time for longer alone depending on how obvious it becomes that she likes you, and then tell her when you're pretty certain - especially if you suspect bisexual/lesbian tendencies. Of course, if these relate to her kissing other girls in front of you, keep it in mind she may be trying to gauge your response - jealousy, interest etc. - girls are crafty bastards.
Of course, if you're at least 98% certain at this stage that she shares the feeling, give it a go, but I wouldn't advise it.
And to HBAndy's point earlier - I'm single, and never get the chance to use my own advice, but there you go. Other people might as well get a chance to try it out for me.
Okay, so I think now she wants to meet for a proper date. She's hard to gauge and playing like a tricky serve and volley player in tennis, I'm more of an Andre Agassi type person. I was all up for a bit of casual stuff...
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 23:04)
Okay, so I think now she wants to meet for a proper date. She's hard to gauge and playing like a tricky serve and volley player in tennis, I'm more of an Andre Agassi type person. I was all up for a bit of casual stuff...
Then do what I suggested first, except expand it slightly. Take her out for a meal somewhere (not too expensive, but not Pizza Hut either - just somewhere nice. Small, quiet and romantic - probably Italian.) and arrange to meet up with friends in a club somewhere afterwards. Depending on what happens, that's the best oppertunity to gauge how serious she is. She may be all flirty and attentive in the restaraunt, but when you get to the club she might fuck off and dance with other guys - if she sticks with you, you might be on to a winner - then report back to me for more instructions.
I'm 100% positive that she would stick with me in the club afterwards. No doubt about that.
You certainly are handed out the good advice in this thread so far Beasty.
Anyway, to use another Tennis analogy, I've put the ball in her court by asking her what she would like to do...I'm excited about the potential of this.
I know the absolute perfect place to go for a meal too.
You certainly are handed out the good advice in this thread so far Beasty.
Anyway, to use another Tennis analogy, I've put the ball in her court by asking her what she would like to do...I'm excited about the potential of this.
I know the absolute perfect place to go for a meal too.
Test her with it anyway. There's no harm in double checking these things. If you're right, you can get straight into the next step.
Out of interest, what would be the next step?
I'm positive she'd stay with me at the club, we must have seen each other at a club about 10 times and each time we've been all over each other all night.
I'm positive she'd stay with me at the club, we must have seen each other at a club about 10 times and each time we've been all over each other all night.
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 18 2006, 23:46)
Out of interest, what would be the next step?
I'm positive she'd stay with me at the club, we must have seen each other at a club about 10 times and each time we've been all over each other all night.
I'm positive she'd stay with me at the club, we must have seen each other at a club about 10 times and each time we've been all over each other all night.
The next step would be a totally exclusive date, complete with walking to the door and "You only go 90%!" moments.
And do it anyway, damn it! Apart from anything, it eases you into the proper dating thing with her slowly and will be a generally fun night out, you argumentative bastard. Seriously, don't ask me for advice if you're not gonna damn well listen to me.
She's out tonight and look at me! I'm sitting at home on the computer! Do I do something crazy and run into town now and create a crazy romantic moment?
This is literally make or break right this second...WHAT DO I DO?
I'm out of credit and she won't be able to come out tomorrow night when I'm definitely going to be out...WHAT DO I DO?
This is literally make or break right this second...WHAT DO I DO?
I'm out of credit and she won't be able to come out tomorrow night when I'm definitely going to be out...WHAT DO I DO?
I went out with a girl for three years, she cheated on me and dumped me during christmas. I was gutted. So gutted I posted a thread on here about it, saying, "what the fuck do I do?". We stayed friends for a few months, me all the time wanting to go back out with her and for things to go back the way they were. Me and her, happy and together. It never happened.
In the mean time, I started dating and pulling other women. But, it was never the same, the whole time I wanted her back. She was all I thought of. Then she announced that she was going off to Majorca to teach swimming to kids on holiday from May to October. Well, you can imagine I was so gutted, but then I realised this was a chance to break free from her and get my own space.
Unfortunately, we then stared sleeping together again in April/May. This was a HUGE mistake in hindsight, I thought at the time I could handle it but it made me fall for her again and her me.
She then left. I tried to get over her. I tried other women, nothing worked. Every time I pulled a girl it was fucking fantastic, but, after I always thought of her. How she made me feel, how I made her feel and how fucking good I felt being able to be part of her life.
Then, Thursday, after being out drinkin I came ot and epithany. I can live without her. I can be me and live my life how I want without her. She made me feel special but, in the end not matter how much I want her back I have to move on.
And I feel FUCKING great. Knowing I have the strength to carry on. Having the strength ot move to a new city ( I started another thread about, should I go to Sheffield).
So, even as I type this I feel as though we should be together. BUT, I now know life goes on and I may meet someone so, so special to me I forget about ther altogether and she becomes a past memory. And I wouldn't give ANYTHING up from our past. It made me into the person I am today, which I love, and all the bad, low, horrible memories were worth that first moment we kissed an the girl I loved became a part of my life.
I love you Steph.x
P.s. Feeder and Just the way I'm feeling and 'Feeling a moment' came on during this which made it even more gay. Then 'Highway to hell' cmae on after I put that fullstop above on!
In the mean time, I started dating and pulling other women. But, it was never the same, the whole time I wanted her back. She was all I thought of. Then she announced that she was going off to Majorca to teach swimming to kids on holiday from May to October. Well, you can imagine I was so gutted, but then I realised this was a chance to break free from her and get my own space.
Unfortunately, we then stared sleeping together again in April/May. This was a HUGE mistake in hindsight, I thought at the time I could handle it but it made me fall for her again and her me.
She then left. I tried to get over her. I tried other women, nothing worked. Every time I pulled a girl it was fucking fantastic, but, after I always thought of her. How she made me feel, how I made her feel and how fucking good I felt being able to be part of her life.
Then, Thursday, after being out drinkin I came ot and epithany. I can live without her. I can be me and live my life how I want without her. She made me feel special but, in the end not matter how much I want her back I have to move on.
And I feel FUCKING great. Knowing I have the strength to carry on. Having the strength ot move to a new city ( I started another thread about, should I go to Sheffield).
So, even as I type this I feel as though we should be together. BUT, I now know life goes on and I may meet someone so, so special to me I forget about ther altogether and she becomes a past memory. And I wouldn't give ANYTHING up from our past. It made me into the person I am today, which I love, and all the bad, low, horrible memories were worth that first moment we kissed an the girl I loved became a part of my life.
I love you Steph.x
P.s. Feeder and Just the way I'm feeling and 'Feeling a moment' came on during this which made it even more gay. Then 'Highway to hell' cmae on after I put that fullstop above on!
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 19 2006, 0:04)
She's out tonight and look at me! I'm sitting at home on the computer! Do I do something crazy and run into town now and create a crazy romantic moment?
This is literally make or break right this second...WHAT DO I DO?
I'm out of credit and she won't be able to come out tomorrow night when I'm definitely going to be out...WHAT DO I DO?
This is literally make or break right this second...WHAT DO I DO?
I'm out of credit and she won't be able to come out tomorrow night when I'm definitely going to be out...WHAT DO I DO?
Fuck it, I just tried to ring her from my housephone and she seemed confused. Fuck. I really want to go in and see her but would feel I was being completely desperate and a bit of a loser. I want to see her though. I've got like 20 minutes tops, to make this decision...
Don't go. I wouldn't.
Ok, I'll leave it this week and try to tempt her out tomorrow.
I can relax a bit now, I did sort of the same thing last week and she totally digged it, and rang me up in the morning to say she had such a nice time and thanked me for coming.
I'll work on getting her out tomorrow.
I can relax a bit now, I did sort of the same thing last week and she totally digged it, and rang me up in the morning to say she had such a nice time and thanked me for coming.
I'll work on getting her out tomorrow.
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 19 2006, 0:28)
Ok, I'll leave it this week and try to tempt her out tomorrow.
I can relax a bit now, I did sort of the same thing last week and she totally digged it, and rang me up in the morning to say she had such a nice time and thanked me for coming.
I'll work on getting her out tomorrow.
I can relax a bit now, I did sort of the same thing last week and she totally digged it, and rang me up in the morning to say she had such a nice time and thanked me for coming.
I'll work on getting her out tomorrow.
What di you do? I'd try get her out tomo. If she like she'll come out, even it's if "only for a bit". Work your magic then my son.
QUOTE (the dynamite man @ Aug 19 2006, 0:30)
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 19 2006, 0:28)
Ok, I'll leave it this week and try to tempt her out tomorrow.
I can relax a bit now, I did sort of the same thing last week and she totally digged it, and rang me up in the morning to say she had such a nice time and thanked me for coming.
I'll work on getting her out tomorrow.
What di you do? I'd try get her out tomo. If she like she'll come out, even it's if "only for a bit". Work your magic then my son.
I went on a bit of a mad one. I was out in town with my mate and we were just having a chillout session in the pub and I was wearing shorts and trainers and then I saw her in the pub and we chatted for about an hour (I rudely left me mate but he understood), I met all her friends and impressed the fuck out of them and she was loving it. Then she said she was going on to this club and I was like "I can't get in like this", then she left and I was gutted so I decided to get a taxi home at about 12:30am and change into some smarter clothes and then RAN back into town for about 1am. We were with each other for the rest of the night and she really appreciated it.
Two weeks in a row would be a bit much I agree.
Your right on the two weeks part. Best to leave it tonight so she knows you have a life of your own (she doesn't need to know your on a wrestling forum!). She obviously likes you.
If she found out about this thread though...EVERYONE KEEP QUIET. SSShhhh
I've been going out with the girl of my dreams for three years now, and have loved her with all my heart for two. She is the single best thing that has ever happened to me, mainly because as well as sharing my tastes in music, films etc, she is a total sweetheart and the most gorgeous girl I've laid eyes on. She is so out of my league it's not even true. The weird thing is - she liked me first.
You aren't reading this, but I love you more than you will ever imagine.
You aren't reading this, but I love you more than you will ever imagine.
QUOTE (HBAndy @ Aug 19 2006, 0:43)
If she found out about this thread though...EVERYONE KEEP QUIET. SSShhhh
Unless she knows you as HBAndy, you're fine. You could be anyone.
QUOTE (The Dude @ Aug 19 2006, 0:54)
I've been going out with the girl of my dreams for three years now, and have loved her with all my heart for two. She is the single best thing that has ever happened to me, mainly because as well as sharing my tastes in music, films etc, she is a total sweetheart and the most gorgeous girl I've laid eyes on. She is so out of my league it's not even true. The weird thing is - she liked me first.
You aren't reading this, but I love you more than you will ever imagine.
You aren't reading this, but I love you more than you will ever imagine.
I feel I should say something to this, but all I can think of is "aaaaaaaaw." And that's a bit puffy, so I won't bother.
QUOTE (The Dude @ Aug 19 2006, 0:54)
I've been going out with the girl of my dreams for three years now, and have loved her with all my heart for two. She is the single best thing that has ever happened to me, mainly because as well as sharing my tastes in music, films etc, she is a total sweetheart and the most gorgeous girl I've laid eyes on. She is so out of my league it's not even true. The weird thing is - she liked me first.
You aren't reading this, but I love you more than you will ever imagine.
You aren't reading this, but I love you more than you will ever imagine.
I echo those sentiments...Awwwww. This is nice.
And, you mean you don't introduce yourself to people with your forum name? I thought that was what all the cool kids do.
Thing i have read alot in this thred.
" I have told them how i feel "
I always throught this is like a big big no no... Get along with girls take them out dont tell them how you "feel" until you are a couple im not saying be a git but spending time with lady's and making them smile normaly shows you like them if you make a move sooner rather then later you will know if she wants to be a friend or a GF and you can get on with being friends rather then think your going to be with her soon..... After a few week's when your mates and her mates see you as a couple but you have never said you are. You go away somewere just the two of you, thats when you can tell her "HOW YOU FEEL" as telling someone how you feel when its before you have kissed even seems way to soon...
Be nice, be fun,be confident but not arrogent,
DONT act like you have strong feelings or act posesive until you know she sees you the same why as you do.
As Kendel said..
We not always seen eye to eye but the man knows what he is talking about here...
" I have told them how i feel "
I always throught this is like a big big no no... Get along with girls take them out dont tell them how you "feel" until you are a couple im not saying be a git but spending time with lady's and making them smile normaly shows you like them if you make a move sooner rather then later you will know if she wants to be a friend or a GF and you can get on with being friends rather then think your going to be with her soon..... After a few week's when your mates and her mates see you as a couple but you have never said you are. You go away somewere just the two of you, thats when you can tell her "HOW YOU FEEL" as telling someone how you feel when its before you have kissed even seems way to soon...
Be nice, be fun,be confident but not arrogent,
DONT act like you have strong feelings or act posesive until you know she sees you the same why as you do.
As Kendel said..
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Uh oh, you made it to the dreaded 'Friend Zone'
Tip: Don't be too keen. It might be really hard ,you might have met this girl who you get on with real well and have a flirt with, and you might want to text/ring/ email her all the time, but fight thst temptation! This girl ive been getting into was pissing me off, were currenttly at home from uni and she doesnt live near me, so we meet up every couple of weeks or so. We were on msn n she wa giving it the big one and it was getting on my tits. I signed off n went to my mates to play a bit of Pro Evo. After about half an hour she was textin me appologising, asking if i still liked her n if we wanted to meet up for the weekend.
So, as hard as it may be, play it cool and dont text/email/ring back all the time. if shes keen she will wonder what she did wrong and appologise. If she isnt keen she wont bother.
Tip: Don't be too keen. It might be really hard ,you might have met this girl who you get on with real well and have a flirt with, and you might want to text/ring/ email her all the time, but fight thst temptation! This girl ive been getting into was pissing me off, were currenttly at home from uni and she doesnt live near me, so we meet up every couple of weeks or so. We were on msn n she wa giving it the big one and it was getting on my tits. I signed off n went to my mates to play a bit of Pro Evo. After about half an hour she was textin me appologising, asking if i still liked her n if we wanted to meet up for the weekend.
So, as hard as it may be, play it cool and dont text/email/ring back all the time. if shes keen she will wonder what she did wrong and appologise. If she isnt keen she wont bother.
We not always seen eye to eye but the man knows what he is talking about here...
Yep very, very true. Leave it to the women to get all lovey dovey and tell you that stuff. If you do it then they'll see you as a soft touch and know they can fuck you about and you'll still come back.......thats the lads perogative to do that although i don't agree really.
There is a fine line between having someone who's really keen on you and a legitimate pyschopathic bunny boiler. Once you encounter one of them you won't be laughing. Turning up at the house with DVD's to give back when they KNOW you are out and coincidentally meeting your mum for the first time in doing so. That kinda shit is when it starts to get worrying.
There is a fine line between having someone who's really keen on you and a legitimate pyschopathic bunny boiler. Once you encounter one of them you won't be laughing. Turning up at the house with DVD's to give back when they KNOW you are out and coincidentally meeting your mum for the first time in doing so. That kinda shit is when it starts to get worrying.
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And, you mean you don't introduce yourself to people with your forum name? I thought that was what all the cool kids do.
Actually, a lot of people I know do know my forum name, but only because I also use it on MSN.
Yesh, tee-total (and the new me story which women also "dig") says keep it for another week I'd say. Desperation is a sign of weakness at this point. Play hard but fair my man. The DeAngelo theory in this case would work out well. Mix her emotions with some humour then humour yourself by joking about her for example. This is my strategy for playing the game this hand.
As far as relationships go for me at the moment. Friends with benefits suits me fine and dandy (typo?!). Girl from work. Yesh, i know if this falls through it'll be awkward but Im kinda breaking the rules by choosing to be exclusive on my side in the mean time and let her show her "power". Also you want her to be interested in you, not vice-versa.
Yesh, I've entered the PUA community yet already broke the majoritys rules.
As far as relationships go for me at the moment. Friends with benefits suits me fine and dandy (typo?!). Girl from work. Yesh, i know if this falls through it'll be awkward but Im kinda breaking the rules by choosing to be exclusive on my side in the mean time and let her show her "power". Also you want her to be interested in you, not vice-versa.
Yesh, I've entered the PUA community yet already broke the majoritys rules.
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I echo those sentiments...Awwwww. This is nice.
And, you mean you don't introduce yourself to people with your forum name? I thought that was what all the cool kids do.
And, you mean you don't introduce yourself to people with your forum name? I thought that was what all the cool kids do.
I wanna know what your plan is 2moz mate.
I'm definitely going to play it cool tomorrow, try and tempt her out but if she doesn't want to then I'll just leave it up to her.
The annoying thing is when you have the need to see them and just chat with them, but you know that you need to show some restraint and hold back on that desperation inside. Desperation is not an attractive quality.
Ahahahaahah YUSS someone who's read The Game. I really enjoyed the book but don't like the idea of using theories and tactics if you don't want anything other than a one night stand (which I don't see the point of by the way).
The annoying thing is when you have the need to see them and just chat with them, but you know that you need to show some restraint and hold back on that desperation inside. Desperation is not an attractive quality.
QUOTE (Jambo @ Aug 19 2006, 1:14)
Yesh, tee-total (and the new me story which women also "dig") says keep it for another week I'd say. Desperation is a sign of weakness at this point. Play hard but fair my man. The DeAngelo theory in this case would work out well. Mix her emotions with some humour then humour yourself by joking about her for example. This is my strategy for playing the game this hand.
As far as relationships go for me at the moment. Friends with benefits suits me fine and dandy (typo?!). Girl from work. Yesh, i know if this falls through it'll be awkward but Im kinda breaking the rules by choosing to be exclusive on my side in the mean time and let her show her "power". Also you want her to be interested in you, not vice-versa.
Yesh, I've entered the PUA community yet already broke the majoritys rules.
As far as relationships go for me at the moment. Friends with benefits suits me fine and dandy (typo?!). Girl from work. Yesh, i know if this falls through it'll be awkward but Im kinda breaking the rules by choosing to be exclusive on my side in the mean time and let her show her "power". Also you want her to be interested in you, not vice-versa.
Yesh, I've entered the PUA community yet already broke the majoritys rules.
Ahahahaahah YUSS someone who's read The Game. I really enjoyed the book but don't like the idea of using theories and tactics if you don't want anything other than a one night stand (which I don't see the point of by the way).
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I'm definitely going to play it cool tomorrow, try and tempt her out but if she doesn't want to then I'll just leave it up to her.
The annoying thing is when you have the need to see them and just chat with them, but you know that you need to show some restraint and hold back on that desperation inside. Desperation is not an attractive quality.
The annoying thing is when you have the need to see them and just chat with them, but you know that you need to show some restraint and hold back on that desperation inside. Desperation is not an attractive quality.
No offence mate but need to chill out a bit.
See id ask he what she is doing and metion that you might be going to the same PUB/CLUB with her mates... Then id say if you do go there text me and ill try and find you, that way the ball is in her court and if she does then you know that she is in2 you.
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I'm definitely going to play it cool tomorrow, try and tempt her out but if she doesn't want to then I'll just leave it up to her.
The annoying thing is when you have the need to see them and just chat with them, but you know that you need to show some restraint and hold back on that desperation inside. Desperation is not an attractive quality.
The annoying thing is when you have the need to see them and just chat with them, but you know that you need to show some restraint and hold back on that desperation inside. Desperation is not an attractive quality.
No offence mate but need to chill out a bit.
See id ask he what she is doing and metion that you might be going to the same PUB/CLUB with her mates... Then id say if you do go there text me and ill try and find you, that way the ball is in her court and if she does then you know that she is in2 you.That sounds good. She did already say that she was working tomorrow and wouldn't be coming out, but she said that about tonight and she's out there partying it up at the moment so there's always room for a change.
Ok, so I'll text her some time tomorrow evening just asking her what she's doing and that I'll be in The Pad and if she fancies a boogie she knows where to find me, if not thats cool. Something like that?
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That sounds good. She did already say that she was working tomorrow and wouldn't be coming out, but she said that about tonight and she's out there partying it up at the moment so there's always room for a change.
Ok, so I'll text her some time tomorrow evening just asking her what she's doing and that I'll be in The Pad and if she fancies a boogie she knows where to find me, if not thats cool. Something like that?
Ok, so I'll text her some time tomorrow evening just asking her what she's doing and that I'll be in The Pad and if she fancies a boogie she knows where to find me, if not thats cool. Something like that?
See... until i saw the word TEXT her i was like yeah cool.. Moblie phones are like stakers dreams.
I dunno if im being dumb but if there woudl be no way id text her and say you wanna come out..
If i "HAD" to text her (which i prob would just leave it for now) Id text her asking about her night and what she up2 tonight as you and soem mates are going out and if she is gonna be there you'll buy her a drink. i would avoid the TEXT "YOU WANNA COME OUT?" be a bit more suttle.
Despite being in a relationship for three years, I read 'The Game' and thought it was a good laugh. It's an art form anyway.
QUOTE (Deacon.Dispair @ Aug 19 2006, 1:24)
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That sounds good. She did already say that she was working tomorrow and wouldn't be coming out, but she said that about tonight and she's out there partying it up at the moment so there's always room for a change.
Ok, so I'll text her some time tomorrow evening just asking her what she's doing and that I'll be in The Pad and if she fancies a boogie she knows where to find me, if not thats cool. Something like that?
Ok, so I'll text her some time tomorrow evening just asking her what she's doing and that I'll be in The Pad and if she fancies a boogie she knows where to find me, if not thats cool. Something like that?
See... until i saw the word TEXT her i was like yeah cool.. Moblie phones are like stakers dreams.
I dunno if im being dumb but if there woudl be no way id text her and say you wanna come out..
If i "HAD" to text her (which i prob would just leave it for now) Id text her asking about her night and what she up2 tonight as you and soem mates are going out and if she is gonna be there you'll buy her a drink. i would avoid the TEXT "YOU WANNA COME OUT?" be a bit more suttle.
Hmmm, interesting. I'm going to have to play this one by ear. For the past couple of times she's gone out and I haven't been out I've received a text early in the morning saying she didn't have a good time without me.
We'll see how this develops tomorrow, she knows I'll be out and I'm sure if she wanted to, she could come out tomorrow too. It would also be easier to set up something proper if we saw each other tomorrow.
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