I was thinking this could be a general thread for burgeouning relationships in our lives, or to tell stories of lost loves, current loves or just those damn hoes!

What's it like to be in a full on marriage, day to day stuff? The pain and joy of going through the chase of getting a girl (or guy)...that sort of stuff...

This could just be a thread for over-analysing the most minute details - WAHEY!

I'll start it off with my current woes...

Right now I'm on the brink of making or breaking a possible something-or-other with this girl I know. We always see each other when we go out and she's a friend of a friend, we seem to have a very good repartee and good chemistry and we've been chatting and texting a fair bit recently, she likes me and I liker her. But, yesterday I sent her a text saying I want to meet up properly (we always see each other when we're a little bit pissed) and she hasn't texted back yet...Thoughts?

Maybe she has no credit. Think positive.

Get it Pumped HBAndy!

I love over-analysing stuff. That's a good way of thinking but she text me like 10 minutes before...

COME ON UKFFers tell me of your woes and triumphs. I am nosey.

Send her one again saying your free any day except for 'x' when your going out with someone else. If she's playing hard to get then double down and hit her with jealousy. Trumped.

Seriously it sounds like you have something going there so it'll be fine just go with the flow.

I was seeing someone for a month or so before the summer then she was away to a summer camp. We mutually agreed to cool things off although i stuck to my guns and lived the quiet life.......right up untill the week before she came back. Almost ten weeks of being a good citizen and i buckled. Fortunately this other girl seems quite keen and i've been seeing quite a bit of her. As one door closes and all that...........family wedding next week which could be a make or break, she's spotted it a mile off and is coming with me naturally. Could put the cat amongst the pigeons meeting my mum for the first time though as she's O-L-D school.

That's a good bit of advice there. I played hard to get with her for a couple of weeks ago and it was going great. Now, though I'm a fucking chump. I'm going to play it pretty cool with her and am going out tonight and my mate (who's our mutual friend) will be out too, and maybe she will be. I just hope I haven't put her off with a bit of desperation. But, I thought it would be worth the risk. I could DIE TODAY! DIE! Probably won't like, but I could...

Come on...I want some gossip. Who's everyone trying to get with at the moment? Is it going well? Are you a chump with the ladies? The UKFF is here to help.

On a side note, has anyone read The Game by Neil Strauss?

Some advice for if she decides to knock you back would simply be to tell her that she's a fat lesbian with no self confidence who's too intimidated by your good looks and superior intellect to give it a go thus de-moralising her and putting you in a dominant position of superiority - sorted! Obviously this isn't the case but her face would be a picture . Remember this is only to be used after a knock back - I know some blokes who's chat up lines aren't too far from that lol!

I was in the EXACT same place 2 weeks ago. Everything you said put a smile on my face. Friend of a friend, good chemistry, chatting and texting, both liking each other for a while, always drinking (drunk) when we saw each other. Took a while but we're now 'together', meeting her parents on Sunday. Its not so bad for her, she used to work with my mum and they get along but I'm crapping myself.

This is what I like to hear. I'm off out now. I bid you all a good night.

Relationships: Just don't bother.

It's far easier, cheaper and less stressful to stay free and single.

I used to get that all the time. Get chatting with girls, meet them loads of times, text, msn, phone calls etc. Then it get's to the asking out part......and i get the dreaded "your too good of a friend," personally I would rather be told fuck off you ugly bastard.

Yeah, but the 'getting laid' bit isn't half bad...

... but not that I would know! My Uni g/f lives about 2-3 hours away, I work weekdays, she works weekends and I've seen her once in about 2 months. In a month or so she will be living only an hour away and working weekdays (thus weekends are possible), but my testicles are only inches from the floor at this point.

True, but is it really worth all the nagging, whinging and drama that comes (lawl) with it?

yeah i was kinda in the same position till just last night, we known each other a while, a few months ago fell out big style, over the last few weeks we mended everything, and have been getting along great, and as our work has shit computers, we been sat at desks next to each other, and all we have been doing is flirting with each other for 2 weeks, i finally got round to telling her how i saw her, but didnt get any reply, so last night came the big letdown speech from her along the lines of " i think over last couple of weeks we have grown closer, and we have really bonded, i think your 1 in a million and ya a really special guy, i think your a really cute guy, i could lay in bed naked with u but nothing wil ever happen with us" obviously its hard to take, but things are still fine, we been chatting today as though nothing was said, and i admire the girl for never once gettin shitty or feeling awkward around me, just have to accept it and realise i have a really good friend!

Until you have to buy a house......

its stressful on the wrists

Uh oh, you made it to the dreaded 'Friend Zone'

Tip: Don't be too keen. It might be really hard ,you might have met this girl who you get on with real well and have a flirt with, and you might want to text/ring/ email her all the time, but fight thst temptation! This girl ive been getting into was pissing me off, were currenttly at home from uni and she doesnt live near me, so we meet up every couple of weeks or so. We were on msn n she wa giving it the big one and it was getting on my tits. I signed off n went to my mates to play a bit of Pro Evo. After about half an hour she was textin me appologising, asking if i still liked her n if we wanted to meet up for the weekend.

So, as hard as it may be, play it cool and dont text/email/ring back all the time. if shes keen she will wonder what she did wrong and appologise. If she isnt keen she wont bother.

It was either Leicester Lantern, or freaky_jason, I think, who had the perfect solution to getting a woman, about 8 months or so ago, and it involved wrestling. I forget what exactly it was, though.

Andy, things happen for a reason in life. If it's not meant to be then it just isn't meant to be. But I reckon give her time and she'll get back to you. Maybe she's just mulling over how to respond because she's excited by the text. If it does take time for things to get going then that usually tends to make a relationship even more special.

As for my life. Urgh...it kinda sucks relationship wise...complicated few weeks

It was Lantern. He recommended that when you're on a date, you talk about wrestling as much as possible, and every time she tries to change the subject, always bring it back to wrestling.

Theres barely been a time in my adult life where I've been single. The girls I've dated and had relationships with have varied between nice to borderline insane. I've had girls scare me with obsessive behaviour, weird fetishes and I've had others delight me with lots of affection, a beautiful outlook on life and weird fetishes.

The last few (that I've taken seriously, anyway) have seen me being stalked like prey by a loon, being ignored by a girl who didnt know how to communicate and being taken for granted and shoved aside for friends on a nightly basis. The ones that I liked didn't last too long, no more thana few dates or even a night on some occasions. But it all got better....

I've been in a relationship now for a few months. At an SWA show I was watching the show from the gym above and conversation started about an attractive girl in the crowd. We started looking for more and I found one that was perfect for my tastes. So I called dibs.

A couple of weeks later I found her profile on the SWA MySpace, some flirting was done, dates arranged and we met each other in Glasgow. She looked gorgous and thankfully the sight of me didn't make her vomit. We were dating and spending most of our time together as we just 'clicked' when two weeks later she took me out to meet some friends one night and we were confronted with the question, "Are you guys a couple then?" Neither of us had thought that far so it was deemed we were.

New school romance.

What worries me is that some people here might not think that was a joke.

yeah i probably did do that a bit originally, but not lately, and she said as much earlier this week, we planning a trip to see ross noble in november, and today she said, oh you fancy it, shall we put few days hol in, and just jump on a plane somewhere for few days, a long weekend type thing, i said cool shall we ask others, and she said oh no, they wont be able to get time off, i personally have come to the conclusion what she said last night was what she truely thinks, oh well, shit happens

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Yeah - and as you walk her home, encourage her to practise her Macho Man impressions. Because chicks really dig tenacity.

Or something along those lines.

If when you ask them out they run away crying it's probably best that you take it as a firm no.

Also, why do other women crack onto you as soon as you're in a relationship? Shower of cunts.

I agree wholeheartedly.

Or tell you they fancied you a lot about two years ago?

So annoying...

So you can get some when you're other halfs in a strop

I'm sick of relationships. It's just way too much hassle. All the hard work isn't worth it. Even the odd pity-fuck isn't worth it imo.


I think I may become celibate.

Right, well I'm definitely going to play it cool for the next few days and not text her or ring her or anything, that always seems to drag her back in.

She wasn't out tonight, but still had a stonking time.

The cool thing reading through this thread is that it is so blatant who is single and who is in a nice relationship. From the single blokes it's bitterness and resentment and from the blokes in a relationship it's a bit of hope and good vibes. I'm going to listen to the relationship blokes.

What I've always wondered is, who are these guys who are going out with these girls? What the fuck? I mean, it's not me or any of my mates. I reckon there's an alternate universe where these "boyfriend" folk come from. They certainly aren't from round here.

People who have bad experiences tend to be more bitter. But broken relationships are just a fact of life and should teach people a few things about life. I've had a complex few weeks, but hey, things will sort themselves out. They always do.

I reckon you'll get your girl Andy. You seem to be playing it right.

The only reason I am single is because I am a fat ugly fucker. BUT I am told I am a great person and "one in a billion" to one of my close friends. She is single and says I am everything that she is looking for in a guy, apart from physical attraction. Picky cow!!

and im not single anymore... but it still pisses me off that girl dont tell you at the time that they like you

Simon, its part of a womans "make up". You are meant to know that she likes you, even if she is giving you the brush off....

They think we are just like them, but men and women are completely different species, to be honest...We don't have a clue what's going on. I suppose that's one of the fun parts of being with someone, you find out so much about yourself and the opposite sex.

Anyways...GOOD DEVELOPMENT PEOPLE...

I woke up to this text this morning "Hey, sorry I didn't reply the other day andy, yeah thatd be cool. Did you have a gd one last night?"

I'm in a fantabulous mood. I have no idea what to do next though.

Probably make arrangements

I will add my little disasterpieces later.

Oh jesus, yes.

Andy, good luck with this chick, i don't think you need a whole lot of advice, you seem to be doing alright as it is, just keep it that way and avoid displaying any signs of desperation. When she texts you, don't immediatly txt back, leave it an hour or so or whatever sometimes. And if you go out with your mates but are just thinking of her and wanting to txt her all night, leave your phone at home so that you don't. Then you'll come home to a message from her and reply in the morning Daddy-Cool. Always keep them wanting more. Although you may go out, sans-phone and meet your dream-girl...

The hard to get approach definitely seems to work with this girl. I haven't text back to her earlier text yet though...I'm still unsure of what sort of arrangements to make...Would it be cinema? (Although I'm not 14 anymore), a drink down the pub? Maybe meet up before a night out and then go out would be a nice one....

I'm crap in these situations. All the variables are running through my head.

Because you start exuding the confidence that you previously lacked.

Meet up a bit earlier to a general night out, have a couple of drinks and move on to meet other friends. That way you aren't alone with her for so long it could get uncomfortable and you run out of things to say, and she gets to gossip about you with her friends.

This also allows you to listen in discreetly and find out what she really thinks of you. Invest in some bugging technology, or just sit within earshot with a mate and let him know you're only half-listening.

I'm going to go with this one. Make it nice and casual and not too pressured and NOT like a "IT'S A DATE IT'S AWKWARD!" which if it was somewhere gay like the cinema it would be.

I'll report back with findings, although she did say she wasn't out this weekend.

I already know she digs me for sure and last week I made an IMMENSE impression on her close friends ie, dancing with the one that was left on her own and being so hilarious they couldn't contain themselves. She looked like the cat that got the cream.

You should buy bugging equipment anyway, it can be fun. Not that I have any.


*runs*

hey, guys do that just as much, at times when i have been single, no one is interested, boyfriend comes along and then everyone wants a piece. Zero logic.

I could have a gilrfriend if I wanted one, I've just realised that it's not worth the effort.

You single at the mo?

Why not give it a go? I believe the point of human existance is to connect with someone on that deeper level and feel each other's soul from deep down within and pro-create for the next generation. That may be a little overreaching and idealistic, but why not be idealistic? It could be worth the risk.

You're a bit confident about that aren't you? Are you Brad Pitt or something?


Relationships are meant to be hard work but that's what you do, you work at them. My last relationship was very hard work as the other half just couldn't be bothered with anything. It gets a bit tiresome when someone keeps telling you they do want to go out with you but they just don't want to go OUT with you.

Confidence on the other hand is a funny thing. I've never been able to tell someone I like them. I'm always the friend, the shoulder to lean on and all that crap. And all you guys saying it's always when you're attached that girls want you well, I've been single for a while now and not once has anyone told me they fancy me or like me. Not even anyone on MSN or MySpace.

Pity me people, pity me.

My latest relationship ended after about three years and I've now been single for about six months, this is the longest I've been single for a long time and I'm a lot happier, less stressed and more financially stable right now than I've ever been in my life. It's nice to have someone to come home to but it's better to have peace and quiet and absolutely zero stress.

As far as procreation goes, I'm against it.

I'm sure that's how you feel at the moment and I can understand that after a lengthy 3 year relationship you would want some time on your own and just be without the stresses that having a relationship brings. So, I see where you are coming from, but I'm sure that a few months down the line you'll want another girlfriend as that itch needs to be scratched.

I've never really understood people being against pro-creation. It's everyone's own choice of course, but I see it, personally, as something which is a part of our reason for being.