MAT, who is the father?

After being induced twice on saturday & once on sunday,first starting the contractions mid saturday afternoon & hardly any sleep in about 3 days for both of us my g/f finally gave birth to our daughter Violet-Starr at 10:38 this morning weighing 6lb 4oz.A hell of a lot of waiting & pain but it was all worth it & they're both doing fine.Just gotta monitor the missus's bloodpressure & temp & as long as its ok im hoping they'll be allowed home tomorrow,can't wait....

Aww congratulations! Would've been even better if she'd waited 24 hours...

Way to go Vamp

Hope everything goes smoothly beautiful little girl you have there mate

Congratulations!

Awwwww!

Congratulations!

Good stuff.
Congrats to you and the Mrs

Congratulations. Have fun!

What sort of nutcase has rings in their lip around small children? My daughter would pull at them all day. She clamped a clothes peg on my nose once.

amazing pics!!! Are small babies common in your families?
Congratulations


Also, next time you see you misses, or to anyone who knows on here, how on earth do you cope with the extreme exhaustion!?!?!?!?!?

And i'm going to need to take pics of my belly sooner than i thought cuz i have all of a sudden grown!!! got a nice little bump across my pelvis now ^.^

I'm going to be taking photos of a pregnant lady in the studio soon like Demi Moore type photos. Looking forward to it I am, there's just something so sexy about pregnant women lol. Pop to Worthing if you want MAT >_<.

Haha fair point,my five year old used to play with them when she was a baby,she didn't pull em that much though & she seemed to
enjoy just feeling around & feeling them,so i should be ok.Hehe i wouldn't mind anyway,she can't do wrong in my eyes

They came home tonight so she's really relieved to be home in her own bed again after five nights in hospital,she's really tired now so im on feeding duty tonight.Which should be fun as Violet's a bit slow on feeding at the moment so it takes a bit of work,but we'll get there

MAT...small babies don't really run in teh family,but i was tiny,i was three months premature & weighed less than a bag of sugar at one point & wasn't expected to make it,but i did & it amazes a lot of people,so i was pretty happy with her being 6lb 4

Is 6lb 4oz small? I was 5lb 8oz!

Vampy, can I ask if shes being breastfed? If not, why? Just wondering, I'm not going to start lecturing!

I didn't like the breast feeding. It hurt my wife, it put all the responsibility on her and it didn't seem to satisfy the baby. After 3 days, I insisted she stop it and let me help, so she did. It was much better after that, she was less zombified and we had a happier baby. She doesn't seem to have suffered for it. She's small, but so is my wife, so I expect that's in her genes rather than because she was bottle fed.

Vamp might have a similar reason, or perhaps he's bottle feeding breast milk.

Glad to hear everyones doing well I allways thought that 6lb was small, i was 7 on the dot.
I would like to try and breastfeed, allthough my brother and i were apparently awful at latching and then once we got the hang of that, we wouldnt suck, yet we both took to a bottle like we'd been doing it our whole lives. weird.

Had a really bad night last night, hanging over the toilet for ages, i have never ever felt that sick. I've had alot of viral stomach bugs and nothing touches how i was feeling last night.
I've allready assured dear husband to be, that this is the first, and LAST!

Just looked at her tag & apparently it was worked out wrong at first & she was actually 6lb 7oz,still it is pretty small i guess,but in herself she feels a good weight & looks like she's gonna fill out well,obviously you can't really tell but ya know when you can just see things...She's got bloody long legs & feet though hehe.

She's not being breastfed,i was all for it & tried persuading my g/f to do it,if nothing else than for that initial bonding.She did say she might try it once,because apparently even doing it just th eone time helps.But she decided against it completely in the end because of how sore she was was already she didn't think she'd be able to take it.TBH i really wish she would but as Rick said about it hurting,i'd rather she be comfortable & happy,plus in a selfish kind of way i can feel more hands on being on bottle duty.Beside's my Lulu's really stubborn at times so i'm not gonna try & persuade her anymore haha.
I got about 2 or 3 hours sleep last night,she's still a bit slow feeding & took a while but we got there,she had a couple of good cries & i layed her on my chest to calm her down & she snuggled up & was all happy & content,which felt really good for me as a dad bonding with her.Got about another 3 hours sleep when nanny got up & took over.But i feel grat now i think it's still the adrenaline & excitement

Oh man, I cannot wait to start hvaing mini Jasmines!

Bless congrats Vamp

Yaaaaay we're well chuffed!
We got our first finished bottle a while ago,she drank 60mls.I know that doesn't sound a lot but it is for her at the minute as she was barely drinking 20 up till now.The midwives at the hospital said because she's slow feeding to give her about 30mls every 3 hours,then th emidwife that visited yesterday said give her 60-80.So i stayed up with her again last night & she gradually drunk a bit more each time.The midwife told us she has jaundice which while it's not serious isn't helping her feeding because it's like a vicious circle.The feeding helps the jaundice go,but the jaundice makes her tired & fall asleep while feeding.But we woke her at 1 this afternoon,gave her a wash & started feeding her.She stayed awake until about half 3ish & drank the 60mls in that time.It's still very slow but she's getting there,just gotta be patient & encourage her to drink.But it felt so good seeing her drink & hearing it go down & the fact she stayed awake for a while

awww sounds like you've got a proper little trooper there!!!!
I demand more pics

and look at my new sig!!!!!

hehe awww yea you'll find yourself looking at th estages each week & thinking oooh that's happening inside me.
Go on Bounty they have forums on there that are really helpful,Lucie found it really good to just let things out on there & talk to other girls going through the same thing,& it's also really good if your worried about anything because there's always someone on ethere that is going through or has been through the same things.

I can't be arsed to upload em haha im being lazy but there's a load on my myspace snotty's myspaz

lol...

This actually brought small tears of happiness to my eyes.

What a wuss I am.

Delighted for you though Vamp. Congrats to the family and all that.

Awwww shes so cute

God I'm broody!

Cherry, xxx

Well, the hormones have hit me.

I've spent all of today fighting tears.
I let myself cry a little bit earlier.

Not tears of sadness at all. just when i thought about anything babyish my eyes watered.

Weird.

Awesome Mushroomhead tattoo.

Gonna have to get used to that me love,she was a bloody nightmare.She burst into tears a while ago too.But it's just normal & all the special moments will outweigh the hormonal teary moments.Just wait until you get the hormone rages....I got a bag of pizza's thrown at me in Tesco's carpark because 'i'd spent too much' on food fo rus ,half of which she put in the trolley herself!
Was pretty amusing really.
Don't worry just go with the flow cos there's gonna be times where you're gonna burst into tears & not have a clue why


Im no help am i hehe

Oh trust me, ive got the rages. My poor saxo's door nearly came off the other night.
Everythings pissing me off, little niggles that would at any other time just annoy me slightly enrage me.
Been really close to splitting up with other half latley too, because according to him, this isnt because of hormones its because i dont love him anymore.
He also cant get to grips with the fact that i really dont want to be 'near' him right now.

gggrrrr......

MAT, have you thought of any names yet?

yep.
Boy: Dillan, or Dylan Matthew Clark
Girl: Bethany Grace Clark

I really want a boy, but im so so so sure it will be a girl!
Also, i found out the other day, that Dylan meant 'The Sea' very apt for an islander!

Out of curiosity, was this baby planned?

Don't worry too much i think it's normal for the both of you,i felt like she didn't wanna know me & some of the things she said seemed like the hormones were just an excuse for her to say what she was really thinking,to an extent i still do think it,but i think that's more my own paranoia & insecurity.We 'split up' a shit load of times & it always ended in her saying she didn't mean it & needs me so it got to the point where i'd just ride out the arguments & not leave when she told me to cos i knew it'd end up with her calling me to come back or us really missing each other if i did go to my mums.You also mite start getting self loathing a bit,it's really horrible to watch & not really be able to do anything.But it's well worth it all in the end & you'll look back & probably laugh.Anywaaaay......
I like Bethany Grace as a name,my mate's not long had a boy & he called him Dylan as well

I like the name Dylan spelt with the Y not the I.

Your hormones will settle down eventually and your other half will learn to tell the difference between how you would act normally to situations and how you react now your PG

Cherry, xxx

Sort of, just a little sooner than expected. why?




Christ that sounds exactly like us!!!

I was born 6 weeks early, so dont be relying on those 9 month countdown things too much!

i was supposed to be born december 21st, i was infact born on 5th nov

Out of curiosity, why does it matter? It's not as if she is a chavvy teenager with no qualifications.

Bonfire night! You jammy bastard hehe
I was born 3 months premature,was meant to be born in march but came on xmas eve,so it is true you can't really go by them,but they are good for the general ideas of what's happening inside & they help you to relax a bit knowing it

Because not being a teenager makes it so much better?

Why does it matter to you so much if this baby was planned or not?

Cherry, xxx

THREE people have asked him that question now, hes being a coward, leave him to it.

Also i would like to point out the fact that allthough there are some teenage parents that make a pigs ear of it, and some that are silly going through with something like this ie; 16 and unders commonly, there are also some fantastic teenagers that are great parents. I know a few people that have had a child between the ages of 16 and 19 and their kids are some of the best behaved, healthy, beautiful and respectful i've ever met.

On the other side you've also got all the older parents in their 20's 30's etc who shouldnt have ever been allowed to have kids.

It works both ways.

It doesn't matter how old you are when you have you're first (law abiding though!) It's how you raise and teach them, my son can be a little shite when he's at home with me, swearing, throwing things, being a general pain in the arse and I can live with that but I've taught him that if we go anywhere he doesn't touch anything unless he asks/been asked/told to and is always polite and respectful... using please's and thank-you's as such. Bearing in mind he's approaching 3 and he was born when I was 19 I think I've done an excellent job. I only have him two days a week now after splitting up but he acts differently at mine as he would at his mum's. I have friends in their late twenties/early thirties and they have no idea what to do with their children, as in discipline/teaching morals. I've never told them how to do it and never will. On the other hand I have friends whose children are seemingly close to perfection, I don't want to control my son or make him do things I want him to do but I at least want to make him into a decent human being so he has a chance later on.

Generally speaking, how does a teenager even begin to support a family or are handouts just a given these days?

Actually I find it quite insulting that hes even asked the question, the least he could do is explain why!

Btw MAT have you looked at the Baby Talk forum on Confetti? There are loads of ladies on there who want to share their experiences with the hormones, births etc and a few midwives who are happy to answer any questions you have

Cherry, xxx

Honestly, I'm just asking because it seems a bit early into the relationship to have a planned child.

Also, Jesus, a guy doesn't reply immediately and is a coward?

And 'Sort of'. Does that just mean 'No but we'd discussed having a maybe one day perhaps in the future'?

There's also the soap opera nature of her love life and sexuality to consider.

Are you loosing sleep over this??
Its really none of your business at the and of the day love.

We're allready getting married, and if we think the relationship is strong enough to go that far then why should a child be a problem? and i dont think 8 months is a short period of time at all, especially in this day and age.
We had planned to start trying soon, this was just an unexpected surprise, and a great surprise at that.

If it's none of his business you may want to reconsider what you post on a public forum. It's not a dig, just an observation.

That too. I just thought it'd be inappropriate to point out.

Also, call me crazy, but I would personally consider it a bit soon to have a child when you haven't even been together for the length of a pregnancy yet.

The 'none of your business' thing becomes negated when you always post what's going on in your life on a public forum.

And for the love of God, 'loosing' is not a word.

Not taking sides & sticking up for anyone,all entitled to our opinions,but the main thing i see is that MAT's happy about it & they do their best for the baby which im sure they will.Even if they don't work out (touch wood it doesn't happen) then as long as they do everything they can to make the baby happy & make sure it's ok then everything can be all good. Anyway...On a happier,non argumentative note here's a few more pics.Sorry if i'm boring you all,i just can't help it i'm so proud & ecstatic at the moment

Congratulations MAT, hope everything goes well with the pregnancy. I'm hoping my little sister has some similar news over the next couple of years. Don't want to put a downer on things but she's had 2 ectopics within the space of 18 months and now has no fallopian tubes so is now on the IVF waiting list. I would happily give up my child bearing abilities if it meant she could have children, even though I want kids eventutally. It's just been so heartbreaking to see her go through it, once was bad but the second time was devastating. Especially since the first time it all happened due due to NHS neglect. They told her she was pregnant and sent her home ignoring the fact that she had severe pain all down once side. 12 hours later she was having emergency surgery clinging onto her life. Could have all been avoided. On a more positive note things are looking good for the future, she has a very very good chance of getting pregnant and having a child through IVF. It's not the getting pregnant that's the problem it was getting it through the tube down into the womb but IVF should sort that for her. Bless her, she's totally my hero. She's been to hell and back over the past couple of years and is still smiling!!